Wonke umuntu uyazi eyodwa. Esikhathini esithile empilweni yakho, kungaba ngumzali, uthisha, umngane, noma umlingani, nakanjani uzohlangana nalo muntu. Futhi ngabantu ongafuni ukubazungeza nabo ngoba, ukubeka nje: benza impilo ibe nzima.
Ukuba seduze kwesigaxa sokulawula kufanele ube sesimweni sokuhlala uqaphile, ukukhungatheka, nengcindezi. Amathiphu alandelayo achaza izingqinamba zabo, ukuthi basebenza kanjani, nokuthi bangazisingatha kanjani kangcono.
Kungani Baziphatha Ngale Ndlela?
Ukuba yinqaba yokulawula kubangelwa ukuntuleka kokulawula empilweni yomuntu. Bafuna ukusungula kabusha lokho kulawula ngokuzikhukhumeza kwabanye. Ngokuguquka okungajwayelekile, bakholelwa ukuthi: 'Angikwazi ukulawula impilo yami, kodwa ngizizwa ngilawula kakhulu ngokulawula eyakho.'
Ukulawula abanye abantu kubenza bazizwe bengcono ngabo, futhi kwehlisa izinkathazo zabo.
Ngenkathi ungeke uqonde ukuhlanganiswa kwemicimbi edale ukuthi umuntu othile abe yinqaba yokulawula, unganquma izinto eziningana mayelana nokuthi yini ebenza baqhubeke babe ngale ndlela.
Kunezinto ezintathu ezakha i-freak yokulawula:
1. Ukungazethembi
Isidingo sokulawula abanye kaningi sibangelwa ukungazethembi okujulile. Umuntu olawulayo uzizwa sengathi akenele ngokwanele futhi kufanele azinikele ngokulawula abanye embukisweni onamandla wobudlova. Kule ndawo, uzothola izinhlobo ezimbili zama-freaks wokulawula: Isiqhwaga, futhi uMphathi.
Isiqhwaga
Kwabanye abantu, lokhu kungukuziphatha ngokoqobo, okunolaka, okuphikisayo, okungukuthi, isiqhwaga esivamile esivamile esikoleni sakho.
Kubantu abadala, lo muntu uyisiqhwaga esikhulu, esinenkani, ohlasela abantu ukuze abasabise benze abakuthandayo. Uma uzama ukuphikisana nabo, bazovele bakhule kakhulu, futhi bakugqokise phansi kuze kube seqophelweni lapho ufuna khona ukuthi isimo siphele, ngakho-ke uyawavumela ubayeke babe nendlela yabo.
Lokhu kuziphatha kuvame ukubonwa emadodeni, kunabesifazane, ngoba amadoda ahlangana nabantu ukuze asebenzise izindlela ezinolaka ukufakazela izidingo nezidingo zabo. Lokhu kuziphatha kujwayelekile kakhulu lapho amandla ahlukile ngokwesibonelo: umphathi-umqashi, uthisha-umfundi, noma ukuphoqelelwa komthetho.
Izigxobo ziphezulu kumuntu ohlukunyezwayo futhi bayayilandela ukuze bangalahlekelwa yimisebenzi, bangene enkingeni, noma babeke engcupheni amamaki abo. Ama-control freaks kulesi simo azi kahle ukuthi angabalekela, nokuthi ngenxa yokuthi basesikhundleni samandla, bazobhekana nemiphumela embalwa, uma ikhona imiphumela.
Lezi ziqhwaga akudingeki zibe izigebenga ezihuqayo kufanele nje zibe phezulu, futhi zibonakale zisongela ukwedlula lo muntu ezizama ukumgwaza.
Isiphathimandla
Kwezinye izimo, ukulawula ukuziphatha okungajwayelekile kubonakala ngezindlela ezicashile, ngokusebenzisa ukukhwabanisa futhi ulaka lokwenziwa kuhloswe ukukugqokisa, ukukukhohlisa ukuthi uvume, noma ukukwenza uzizwe ungalungile ngokungathobeli.
Lolu hlobo lwesibili lokulawula okungalawuleki empeleni lungaba lubi kakhulu, ngoba okungenani ngesiqhwaga, uyazi ukuthi ukuphi futhi ungagwema ukubangela ukuqhuma, noma uzisuse ngokushesha lapho kwenzeka. I-freakative control freak iyakwazi ukwenza ukuthi wenze lokho abakufunayo ngokusebenzisa ukuxhashazwa ngokomzwelo. Bantula ukuzethemba nobukhona bomzimba ukuze basuse amaqhinga okusabisa, ngakho-ke bafika kuwe ngokwenza wena ngizizwe nginecala noma okungenangqondo lapho wenqaba izicelo zabo.
Lokhu kuvame ukuba ngosebenza naye noma umngani, umzali, futhi ngokujwayelekile, (yize kungenjalo) owesifazane. Ngenkathi kusengaba nomehluko kumandla we-dynamics, izimo ngokuvamile azibi kubi njengaleyo yesiqhwaga.
Abaphathi ngokungajwayelekile bayakhala, kodwa bakwenza uzizwe kabi ngokwala. Bayakunqamula ngokwenza ukuthi uzizwe unobugovu noma ungenangqondo ngokubeka izidingo zakho ngaphambi kwezabo. Imvamisa kuhle kuphela ngemuva kweqiniso lokuthi uqaphela ngqo okwenzekile, futhi uzizwe uthukuthele futhi uthukuthele.
2. Izinkinga Zokwethembana
Ama-freaks wokulawula abaphathi abancane. Abathembi abantu ukuthi benze noma yini engcono kunalokho abangakwenza ngokwabo. Zindiza phezu kwakho ngaso sonke isikhathi, zikhomba ukuthi zizokwenza kanjani kangcono ngenkathi zihlala zikugxeka.
Imvamisa bafuna ukuphelela futhi balindele ukuthi wonke umuntu obazungezile bangene emgqeni. Lokhu kwenza ukuba nje kwabo kudinise. Uma wake waba seduze komuntu okwenza uzizwe sengathi ayikho into ongayenza kahle, futhi uzizwe uphatheke kabi ngawe noma ngabe uzama kangakanani, ubukade uzungezile.
3. Isikhundla Esiphezulu
Ukuze kugcinwe ukulawula, ama-freaks wokulawula kufanele avele sengathi bayazi ukuthi benzani, noma ukuthi bakhuluma ngani. Lokhu kusho isidingo sokugcina ukubukeka.
Lo ngumphathi oyisiqhwaga okholelwa ukuthi, njengoba sebekhona iminyaka eminingi, abadingi ukufunda ngezinqubo noma izinhlelo ezintsha zokusiza abasebenzi babo, ngoba indlela yabo ingcono. Lona umuntu osebenza naye onobuqili otshela abantu ukuthi benze kanjani imisebenzi yabo, noma ahlukumeze ontanga ukuze babukeke kahle kumphathi.
Kwenzakalani ngempela lapha? Ushintsho lusongela ukulawula kwabo, ngakho-ke bemba izithende zabo, bese bezama ukonga ubuso ngazo zonke izindlela. Uma lokho kusho ukuthi uyisilonda, noma indlela yokufeza okuthile, makube njalo.
Ungahle uthande (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):
- Izinhlobo Ezi-8 Zokulawula Abantu Ongase Uhlangane Nabo Empilweni
- Izimpawu Eziyisithupha Zakho Uyisisulu Sokuxhashazwa
- Indlela Yedwala Elimpunga Yokusebenzelana Nombhali WamaNarcissist Lapho kungekho Oxhumana Naye Akuyona Inketho
- Ukuhamba Umugqa Omuhle Phakathi Kokuthonya Nokukhohlisa
- AmaMaski ayisi-6 amaNarcissist angagqoka (nokuthi ungawabeka kanjani)
- Ungakuyeka Kanjani Ukulawula Kubudlelwano
Ukuphatha i-Micromanager
Ngakho-ke ubhekana kanjani nama-freaks wokulawula? Uma ungeke ukwazi ukukugwema, kunezindlela ezimbalwa zokunciphisa umonakalo wazo:
owawina umbango wasebukhosini ngo-2010
- Uma ubhekene nohlobo lokuxhashazwa kwesimo sokulawulwa esimeni somndeni / somngane, hamba. Akunasibopho sokuthi uhlale futhi ubekezelele ukuhlukunyezwa ngamazwi. Akunanani le-turkey, ugogo obhekene nokudabuka, unecala leholide, noma iminyaka yobungane, okufanele ikwenze ubekezelele leyo ndlela yokuziphatha. Njalo lapho lo muntu ephakamisa izwi lakhe noma ezama ukukufaka engxabanweni, zisuse kulesi simo. Uma bengafuni ukushintsha, kwenze lokho kususwa kube unomphela.
- Uma kuyisimo somsebenzi, kungaba nzima. Uma isiqhwaga kungumphathi wakho, babike indlela abaziphethe ngayo kwa-Human Resources (uma umnyango onjalo ukhona). Kungazwakala sengathi uyabanikela, kepha qala ukufuna omunye umsebenzi ngemuva kwakho konke, kuyilapho abakwa-HR bengangenela noma babhale lesi simo, kungathatha isikhathi eside ngaphambi kokuba lowo muntu asuswe noma ungadlulisela komunye umnyango .
- Uma ubhekene nomkhohlisi, njengomuntu osebenza naye noma umngane, vele qhubeka uphinda izidingo zakho futhi uthi cha. Zijwayeze ukuthi cha njalo ekuseni esibukweni uma kufanele, kodwa yisho. Asikho isikhali sakho sokulwa namaqhinga abo abhalwe phansi bese uziqinisekisa.
- Musa ukujuluka izinto ezincane . Noma kungakuzwisa ubuhlungu bunjani ukwenza njalo, bayeke baphumelele kancane. Uma kuyinto engabalulekile kangako kangako, mhlawumbe kungcono ukuthi uyeke ukulawula kwakho futhi ubayeke babe nakho. Gcina u 'cha' wakho oqinisayo ngalezo zikhathi lapho unokukhetha okunamandla kokwenza okuthile ngokwemigomo yakho. Ngaphandle kwalokho, ubeka engcupheni impikiswano engapheli.
- Ungathathi imikhuba yabo yokulawula uqobo yiphutha lomlingiswa wabo elingaba nesinye sezimbangela eziningi ezahlukene. Akubonisi wena, umlingiswa wakho, noma amathuba akho wamakhono afana nalokhu nawo wonke umuntu. Akukona ukuhlaselwa kwakho, kepha kunalokho kuyindlela yokubhekana nayo abayisebenzisayo yize beyivivinya kunalokho.
- Ungalwi nabo noma uzame ukuwashintsha - lokhu kuzoholela ekukhuleni kuphela njengoba befuna ukubusa phezu kwakho. Esikhundleni salokho, gcina ingqondo yakho ngokwamukela isimo futhi ushiye, njengoba kuphakanyisiwe ngenhla, noma uzivimbele ngokomzwelo emiyalweni yabo engapheli, ekufuneni nasekugxekeni.
- Yenza iziphakamiso bese ufaka ubuhlakani bakho, kepha zilungiselele ukuthi zenqatshwe ngokuphelele. Thatha indlela emnene ubabuze ukuthi bacabangani ngemibono yakho kunokumane uyisebenzise ngaphandle kokubonisana (abangayibheka njengomzamo onolaka wokubabukela phansi). Ngale ndlela ungabamba i-ego yabo futhi ubenze bazizwe sengathi banokulawula, ngenkathi bedlala indima esebenzayo, hhayi yokwenziwa, kulesi simo.
- Ithiphu engcono kakhulu engingayinikeza, ngaphezu kwakho konke, zama futhi uhlale uzolile. Ukuzivumela ukuthi uthukuthele kumane nje kunezela umlilo. Uma uphendula ngomoya ophansi, ulinganisela amandla abo kuwe. Ingxenye yokuba yinqaba yokulawula imayelana nokuthola ukusabela abakujabulelayo ukuzwa amandla nokulawula. Uma bengakwazi ukukuhlukumeza noma ukukuxhaphaza, ngeke besakwazi ukukulawula futhi badlulele kolunye ukhomba.
Isikhathi sokuthi uphinde uthathe ukulawula, kusuka ku-freak control.
