Abanye abantu banenhlanhla eyanele yokuba nabazali ababathandayo ngaphandle kwemibandela, bakhuthaze lokho abakuphishekelayo, futhi bahloniphe (futhi basekele!) Ukukhetha kwabo impilo.
Abanye abananhlanhla kangako, futhi kunalokho banabazali abagxeka futhi balulaze konke abakwenzayo, noma-ke baphikelele ekutheni bazi ukuthi yini elungele izingane zabo futhi balindele ukulalelwa… noma ngabe kuthiwa 'izingane' sezingene eminyakeni yabo yobudala.
Kamuva esihlokweni, sizobheka ezinye izindlela zokubhekana nabazali abalawulayo.
yini umehluko phakathi kokwenza uthando nokwenza ucansi
Okokuqala, ake sihlole izehlakalo ezintathu lapho zeqa imigqa obekungafanele neze uzibekezelele. Kulezi zimo, kufanele ukwenze kucace kubo ukuthi amazwi nezenzo zabo azamukeleki.
Ukungahloniphi, Ikakhulu Esidlangalaleni
Abazali bakho bangahle bangavumelani nezinye zezinketho zakho zempilo, kepha baqalekiswe kabi ngokuhlonipha iqiniso lokuthi empeleni, yizinqumo zakho.
Iningi labazali kubonakala sengathi liyakhohlwa ukuthi izingane zabo azizikhulisi ngokwazo, kepha izidalwa ezizimele ezifanele ukuhlonishwa nokuhlonishwa njenganoma ngubani omunye umuntu.
Izinto zingaba zimbi kakhulu uma unohlobo lomzali othanda ukukubukela phansi esidlangalaleni, noma ngabe ufuna ukuzijabulisa, noma ngoba becabanga ukuthi ukuthola ontanga yabo ohlangothini lwabo ngokumelene nawe kuzoqinisa ukuma kwabo kuwe futhi kukuphoqe ukuthi ushintshe ingqondo yakho ukuqondanisa neyabo.
Kuyinto eyodwa uma umzali wakho ekutshela ukuthi abayithandi imihlobiso esekhaya lakho, umsebenzi owukhethayo, umbala wezinwele zakho, noma ikhabethe lakho.
Kodwa kungenye into ngokuphelele uma bekuhlekisa noma bekubukela phansi phambi kwabanye abantu.
Uma unamandla anele okubatshela - phambi kwabangane noma izihlobo - ukuthi ukuziphatha kwabo akwamukelekile futhi ngeke kubekezelelwe, yenza kanjalo.
Vele uzilungiselele ukuthi bangase benze umzamo wokukuhleka, futhi abangane babo bangase bakhuphukele ekusekeleni futhi bahlangane nawe njengesigejane izinkawu ezindizayo .
Indlela ephumelela kakhudlwana, yize 'ilwa nokungcola', ukuletha imfihlo eyimbi yomndeni engeke ifune ukuthi isakazwe ukuze ibavalele isihogo.
Isibonelo:
Umzali - “Uqinisekile ukuthi uyayidinga ngempela i-dessert? Usuvele ukhuluphele kunokuba kufanele ube sekuphakameni kwakho. Ngiqinisile? Ubengeke abukeke kangcono kakhulu uma ehlisa isisindo? Vele ubeke imfoloko phansi, sithandwa. ”
Wena - 'Yebo, awudingi ukukopela (omunye umzali) no-X, kodwa ukwenzile noma kunjalo. Wow, imnandi le chocolate mousse… ”
Le ndlela ingadala umonakalo othile, kepha izosebenza kahle ekubathuliseni kulolu hlobo lokukhohlisa ngokuzayo.
Ngaphandle kwalokho, uma usuvele unobudlelwano obusabekayo nomzali ohlukumeza ngokomzwelo, olawulayo, kungaba kubi kangakanani?
Kwesinye isikhathi, kudingeka ukweqisa ukuze kuqinisekiswe ukuthi abakaze baphinde baluphathe lolu hlobo lokuziphatha kuwe futhi.
Uyacelwa ukuthi uqaphele: uma ngabe ukhombe umzali wakho njenge-narcissist (futhi kubalulekile ukuthi wazi ukuthi ukulawula akwenzeki umuntu abe ngumqaphi), le ndlela ayalulekwa.
Lapho usebenzelana nomuntu osebenzisa izihibe, uma ungakwazi ungathintani nabo, lapho ukubheja kwakho okuhle kakhulu ukusebenzisa i- grey rock indlela futhi bangaphenduli ngokomzwelo kuma-jibes abo.
Izinsongo, Zombili Ezimelana Nawe, Noma Ngazo
Kwakukhona indoda eyayinonina ogulayo owayemgcina ngokuphelele ngaphansi kwesithupha sakhe ngokusongela ukuzilimaza uma engakwenzi ayekufuna, ngesikhathi ayefuna ngaso.
Wayekhubazekile, futhi uma engafiki ekhaya ngokushesha lapho efuna, wayemthumelela umyalezo othi “Ngizokwenza into engu-X, futhi uma ngiwa phansi ngizilimaze noma ngife ngoba ubungekho Uma ngizozinakekela, kuzoba yiphutha LAKHO. ”
Ukuba uhlobo oluzwelayo, wayazi kahle ukuthi wayezozibekeka icala uma kukhona okwenzakalayo, ngakho-ke wavele wabubula futhi wavuma ngaso sonke isikhathi, wazizonda ngokumvumela ukuba amkhohlakalise kabi.
Lolu hlobo lokuziphatha olulawulayo alunampilo ngendlela eyisimanga, futhi alwamukelekile neze njengomzali ongakusongela ngokukusika entandweni yakhe uma ungazikhetheli impilo abayifunayo kuwe.
Uma lolu hlobo lwento lubekezelelwe esikhathini esedlule, kufanele luyeke, manje.
Yazi kahle ukuthi abantu kuyaqabukela (uma kwenzeka) benza okuhle kulezi zinhlobo zosongo - bafunde nje ukuthi bangabusa abanye abantu ngokwesaba nangonya, ngakho-ke basebenzisa lokho osekuvele kuyinhlangano yabo ukuthola lokho abakufunayo.
Ukubabiza ngezinsongo zabo ezingenalutho futhi ubatshele ukuthi baqhubekele phambili kuvamise ukubamangaza ngoba akuyona into abebeyilindele, futhi kungakunika ithuba lokuzinika amandla nokuziqinisa.
Ngokuyisisekelo, kufanele uzilungiselele ukuhamba, yize kunethuba elincanyana kakhulu lokuthi kungadingeka wenze njalo.
Ukwazi ukuthi ungakwenza lokho, ngaleyo ndlela uqede ukubusa kwabo ukwesaba, kuvame ukwanele ukubenza bachibiyele izenzo zabo.
Ukuhlambalaza Uzakwethu / Oshade Naye
Manje, kubi ngokwanele uma umzali (abazali) wakho ekuphatha njengobudedengu, kepha kungelelinye izinga lokubi uma bephendulela inyongo kumlingani wakho wokuphila.
Kungenzeka ukuthi abazali bakho abamthandi umuntu okhethe ukuchitha impilo yakho naye, kodwa leyo nkinga iwela ngaphansi kwesimo sonke 'uma ungenanto enhle ongayisho, ungasho lutho nhlobo'.
Abanye abantu bake babhekana nezimo lapho abazali babo bebakhuthaze khona ukuthi bakhohlise abalingani babo, noma babashiyele abalingani labo abazali (abazali) abababone bemukeleka / bethandeka kakhulu emehlweni abo.
Ngokudabukisayo, labo abakhethwa ngabazali imvamisa yilabo ababathola bekhanga ngokwengeziwe ngokomzimba, noma abanemisebenzi (kanye nemali engenayo…) evumelana nalokho abakuthandayo.
Ngokuyisisekelo, bazama ukuhlala ngokuthanda ngokusebenzisa izingane zabo, futhi uma 'izingane' zabo ezindala zingazenzi izinqumo abazifunayo, khona-ke bazizwa bekhohlisiwe, ngandlela thile.
Bangathola ukuhlukumezeka ikakhulukazi uma bengabandlululo, benobungqingili noma be-transphobic futhi usebudlelwaneni nomuntu ongavumelani nesizinda sakhe sobulili noma ubulili, noma uma umlingani wakho enokukhubazeka, noma nje engathandeki njengabo Ngifuna babe.
Bangahle babeke imibono ebabazekayo lapho nonke nihlangene - noma ngabe angenzi lutho-anolaka noma asobala - noma aze ahlasele umlingani wakho ngqo, efuna ukuthi bavikele izici zabo ukuze bazenze 'bafaneleke' ngandlela thile emehlweni abazali bakho.
Lolu hlobo lwesimo lwenzeka nini futhi uma kwenzeka, zimbili kuphela izimpendulo ezamukelekayo: biza umzali ngokushesha futhi ukwenze kucace ukuthi lokho kuziphatha ngeke kubekezelelwe futhi, noma ushiye isimo, futhi ukwenze kucace ukuthi kungani wenza kanjalo .
izinkondlo ezidumile ngokufa komngani
Ukhethe umlingani wakho ngesizathu esithile, futhi uma abazali bakho bengahloniphi futhi benonya kubo, lapho-ke kuzodingeka ukwazi ukusukuma uvikele umuntu omthandayo.
Uma ubusebenzelana nezenzo ezinyantisayo zokulawula ezivela kubazali bakho iminyaka, mancane kakhulu amathuba okuthi bazoshintsha noma nini kungekudala.
Lapho umuntu efika eminyakeni engama-20 edlule, isimo sabo sengqondo nokuziphatha kwabo kusuke kungaguquguquki, ngakho-ke ungaqiniseka ukuthi abantu abaseminyakeni yabo yama-50, 60s, nangaphezulu sebevele bazibekile izindlela zabo.
Kwesinye isikhathi, ukuphela kwento umuntu angayenza ukuqeda ukulawula ukuhlukunyezwa ukudala ibanga ukusuka kumhlukumezi.
Lonke 'igazi lijiyile kunamanzi' crap lisetshenziswe kaningi kakhulu uma kukhulunywa ngokubekezelela nokwamukela isimilo esinyantisayo, esigcina ngokudala umonakalo ongahle ungalungiseki.
Abazali bakho ngeke babe khona unomphela, kodwa ifa abavunyelwe ukulenza kuwe lizoba, ngaphandle kokuthi uthathe isinyathelo sokuzivikela.
Bakhombisile ukuthi ngeke bakwenze uze phambili noma bakhombise uthando lweqiniso nokunakekela kuwe, ngakho-ke kufanele uzibonakalise uthando olungenamibandela nokunakekela ongakaze ukuthole, futhi waqeda unya lwabo nganoma iyiphi indlela edingekayo.
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Ungabhekana Kanjani Nabazali Abalawulayo
Ngaphambi kokuthi sihlole izindlela ongasebenzisana ngazo nomama noma ubaba olawulayo, kubalulekile ukuthi wazi ukuthi kunesilinganiso sokuthi balawula kangakanani.
Lapho abazali bakho bewela khona kuleli zinga kuzonquma ukuthi ungabakhuluma kanjani kangcono nokuziphatha kwabo.
Emaphethelweni aphansi, unabazali ongabiza ukuthi bangaphezu kokulawula. Bangakunikeza izeluleko ezingacelwanga, benze imibono yabo yaziwe ngezinketho zakho zempilo, futhi bakwenzele izinqumo ezincane ngaphandle kokusho njalo.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, abazali abalawula kakhulu bazosebenzisa inkohliso, icala, intukuthelo, nezinye izindlela eziningi zokukhohlisa ukwenza ingane yabo upopayi. Bangakuphoqa ukuthi uhambe ngezindlela ezithile ezingeyona into oyifunayo.
Ngenkathi uzama ukuthola ukuthi hlobo luni lwabazali (abazali) abalawulayo onalo, kuwumqondo omuhle futhi ukuzibeka ezicathulweni zabo bese ubuza ukuthi kungani benesidingo sokulawulwa.
Ngabe bazizwa bengenakho ukulawula ezimpilweni zabo kangangoba kufanele balawule eyakho esikhundleni?
Ingabe bazizwa bedumele ngendlela impilo yabo eyahamba ngayo? Ngabe lokhu kubashiye bemunyu, bethukuthele, futhi bethukuthelele injabulo yakho?
Ngabe abazali babo babehlukumeza futhi ngabe yiyo kuphela le ndlela abazi ngayo ukuthi bangaba kanjani ngumzali?
Ingabe banesithukuthezi futhi banesikhathi esiningi ezandleni zabo ukuthi bangenele ezindabeni zakho ukubanikeza umuzwa wenjongo?
Ngabe bamane bakufunela okungcono kakhulu empilweni, kepha abakwazi ukuguquguquka kulokho abakubheka njengokuhle kakhulu ukuba '?
Ukuthola izisusa zokuziphatha kwabazali bakho kuzokusiza ukunquma ukuthi bahlala kuphi esikalini nokuthi ungabhekana kanjani nabo kangcono.
Ukubhekana Nabo Engqondweni Yakho
Kunezinhlangothi ezimbili zokusondela kubazali abalawulayo. Eyokuqala yimpi oyobhekana nayo engqondweni yakho.
Indlela ocabanga ngayo futhi wenze ngayo lapho uzungeze abazali bakho iwumkhiqizo weminyaka yokuziphatha okungenampilo obekufanele ukubekezelele kubo.
Ukuze usebenzise amasu akho okubhekana nezempilo enempilo, kufanele ushintshe indlela ocabanga ngayo ngalesi simo.
Lokhu kufaka…
Ukwamukela Abazali Bakho Ngalokho Abayikho
Njengoba sishilo ekuqaleni, mancane amathuba okuthi abazali bakho bashintshe ngokuphelele.
Uma behlala ekugcineni okuphansi kwesikali sokulawula, bangakwazi ukushintsha ezinye zezindlela zokuziphatha ozithola zicasula noma zicasula.
Kepha nalapha, ungalindeli izimangaliso futhi ungalindeli ukuthi ushintsho luzofika ngokushesha.
Futhi ngokwengeziwe lapho ukhuphuka, cishe uyoba mancane amathuba okuthi ubone noma yiluphi ushintsho olukhulu kubazali bakho.
Ngakho-ke, wenzani?
Unokukhetha okubili:
1) Lwela futhi ulwe nombono wabazali bakho njengabantu abalawulayo nabanzima, sonke lesi sikhathi uzama ukuguqula indlela abaziphethe ngayo.
2) Yamukela abazali bakho nezindlela zabo zokulawula ukuthi bangobani nokuthi bangahlala kubani.
Lesi sakamuva siyisinqumo esingcono kuwe, ngokomzwelo nangokwengqondo, ngoba ukwamukelwa kudinga amandla amancane kunokumelana.
Akudingeki uthande abazali bakho noma izindlela zabo, kodwa ungakwemukela ukuthi laba ngabantu okufanele ulwe nabo.
Phula Isidingo Sakho Ukujabulisa Abazali Bakho
Kwezinye, kodwa hhayi zonke, izimo, uvumela ukuziphatha komzali wakho kuqhubeke ngoba awufuni ukubadumaza.
Ukukhula endaweni lapho kufanele uhambisane nezindinganiso ezithile futhi uziphathe ngendlela ethile kungashiya umuntu enombono wokuzichaza ongachazwanga kahle.
Ungahle ukwazi ukuhlobanisa ukuzihlonipha kwakho nokubaluleka kwakho okunikezwe ngabazali bakho. Lokhu kusho ukuthi ukuzethemba kwakho kungqongqoza njalo lapho begxeka izinqumo zakho, belulaza amakhono akho, noma bezama ukugomela izinkolelo zabo kuwe ngandlela thile.
Lokhu kungenzeka ukuthi kuqhubeke isikhathi eside. Mhlawumbe awutholanga amamaki amahle abebewalindele kuwe esikoleni esiphakeme. Noma mhlawumbe impilo yakho yezenhlalo ayikuthandi.
Uma ungakwazi ukuqeda ukuzethemba kwakho ekuvunyelweni ngabazali bakho, ngeke kudingeke wenze izinto ezibajabulisayo.
Uzoba nenkululeko yokwenza umqondo wakho ngokuthi ungayiphila kanjani impilo yakho futhi ngeke uzizwe kabi ngayo.
Yize kungafanele ungayinaki imizwa kanyoko nobaba wakho ngokuphelele, ungazivumeli zibe yisici esiyinhloko ezinqumweni ozenzayo.
Vele, lokhu kulula ukukusho kunokukwenza futhi kuvame ukudinga usizo lomeluleki oqeqeshiwe noma owelaphayo.
Kepha ngokusebenza kule ngxenye yomqondo wakho, uzobekwa kangcono ukusebenzisa ezinye zeziphakamiso eziza kamuva.
Funda Ukuthi Ungaziphatha Kanjani Ngaphandle Kwemizwelo Yakho
Lapho ubhekene nesimo lapho abazali bakho bezama ukukulawula, kungokwemvelo ukuvumela imizwelo yakho ilawule ukusabela kwakho.
Noma kunjalo, le akuyona neze indlela engcono kakhulu ongayithatha.
Intukuthelo, ukwesaba, intukuthelo, ukudabuka, neminye imizwa engemihle ifiphaza ukwahlulela kwakho futhi ikunikeze amandla okwenza ngendlela efanelekile.
Lapho ufunda ukupholisa imizwa yakho futhi uyinqamule emicabangweni nasezenzweni zakho, ungaphendula ekuziphatheni kwabazali bakho ngezindlela ezizothuthukisa isimo kuwe, kunokuba sisenze sibi kakhulu.
Futhi, akulula ukwenza lapho abazali bakho beyingxenye enkulu kangaka yempilo yakho futhi umlando wakho owabiwe ugcwele izinkumbulo ezingokomzwelo.
Kepha isimilo esizolile nesinengqondo, noma ngabe ulwela ukubamba impendulo engokomzwelo, kungcono.
Qonda Ukuthi Impilo Yakho Inqunyelwe
Noma ungaphila kuze kufike ebudaleni obudala, ekugcineni uzoshiya le ndawo ngemuva. Umbuzo-ke uba ukuthi, ufuna ukuphila impilo kabani: leyo abazali bakho abafuna uyiphile, noma leyo ofuna ukuyiphila?
Ukwazi ukuthi isikhathi ngasinye lapho uvumela izidingo zabo, uyeka ithuba lokukhetha elinye ikusasa, ungaqina esimweni sakho nasezinkolelweni zakho.
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Kokulungile nokungalungile, kufanele ube nezwi lokugcina lokuthi uyiphila kanjani impilo yakho.
Abazali bakho bathole ithuba lokudala impilo abayifunayo. Ungabavumeli bakutshele ukuthi okwakho kufanele kubukeke kanjani.
Beka Inani Ebudlelwaneni Onabo Nabazali Bakho
Kwezinye izimo, into engcono kakhulu ongayenza ukuze ugcine ingqondo yakho ihlanzekile ukuzihlukanisa nabazali bakho.
Uma behlale bekucasula njalo lapho ubabona, akulona intshisekelo yakho ukubabona kaningi.
Noma kunzima ukuvuma, kungakuhle ukuthi ubeke ibanga elithile ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo phakathi kwakho nabazali bakho.
Uma ungeke uziqhelelanise nomzimba esikhathini esifushane - mhlawumbe uhlala nabo futhi / noma usengumntwana ngokwakho - ungafunda ukuziqhelelanisa ngokomzwelo.
Isinqumo okufanele usithathe ukuthi ubazisa kangakanani ubuhlobo bakho nabazali bakho.
Ngabe wabelana ngezikhathi ezithile ezinhle ngempela nabo futhi isimilo esilawulayo simane nje siyisihla ebudlelwaneni obulungile?
Noma ugcwele ukukhathazeka noma intukuthelo njalo lapho ubabona futhi ubungeke ubakhumbule uma ungaphinde ubabone?
Izindlela Ezisebenzayo Zokubhekana Nabazali Abalawulayo
Manje njengoba sesihlolisise ezinye zezindlela ongaguqula ngazo ukucabanga kwakho, ake sibheke lokho esikwenzayo ngokwezindlela ezingokoqobo.
Ungaguquguquki Endleleni Yakho
Kuyasiza ukuba necebo endaweni yokubhekana nabazali bakho. Lolu hlelo luzocaciswa wena kanye nezimo zakho.
Noma yini oyenzayo, bambelela kuleli cebo.
Okufanele ukuqonde ukuthi ukuziphatha kokulawula kwabazali bakho, ngokwezinga elithile, kuyimpendulo efundwayo. Iguquke ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kususelwa kokuhlangenwe nakho kwabo nokubona kwakho nokuziphatha kwakho.
Yize kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi, njengoba kuphawuliwe ngenhla, akunakwenzeka ukuthi abazali bakho bashintshe lokho abayikho emnyombweni wabo, ngezinga elithile, bangashintsha indlela abaziphatha ngayo kuwe.
Kepha bazokwenza lokho kuphela uma ukwazi ukuhlala uqinile kuhlelo lwakho.
Uma uzama indlela izikhathi ezimbalwa, ungaboni mehluko emphumeleni wokugcina, bese uqhubeka ubuyela ezindleleni zakho zakudala, abazali bakho ngeke babone sizathu sokushintsha.
Kepha uma uqhubeka, bangagcina bethobekile futhi 'bafunde' ukuthatha enye indlela.
Ngemuva kwakho konke, isifiso sabo sokukulawula sidinga ukuthi basebenzise inani eliningi lamandla - ngokwengqondo, ngokomzwelo, nangokomzimba.
Uma bebona ukuthi la mandla amoshwa, bangahle bashintshe indlela abasebenzelana ngayo nawe ukuyilondoloza.
Susa Konke Ukuncika Ongaba Nakho Kubo
Noma ngabe uhlala isikhathi eside kangakanani uncike kubazali bakho, bazozwa sengathi banelungelo lokuveza imibono yabo futhi banqume ukuthi uphila kanjani.
Uma uhlala ekhaya, ubakweleta noma yini ngokwezimali, noma uthembele kubo kwezinye izinto ezinjengokusiza ngezingane zakho, udinga ukunqamula lezo zibopho.
Kuyavunywa, lokhu akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi noma kuqondile. Ungahle ungabi nalo lelo thuba njengamanje, kodwa ungalihlelela.
Isikhathi esiningi, ifinyelela emalini, ngakho-ke qaphela ngokwezimali bese wonga ngangokunokwenzeka. Futhi ungabatsheli ngakho.
Thatha umsebenzi nomaphi lapho ungakwazi khona futhi usebenzise imali encane ngangokunokwenzeka. Abazali bakho bangakuhleka usulu umsebenzi owukhethile noma bazame nokukuyekisa ukusebenza, kodwa kufanele uhlale uqine ekuzimiseleni kwakho ukuzimela ngokwezimali.
Khokha noma yini obakweleta yona, noma ngabe uyinikwe njengesipho. Uma bathenga imoto yakho noma yini enye okungeyakho, bakhokhele ngalokho futhi.
Ungathembeli kuzo ukuthi zikusize nganoma iyiphi enye indlela futhi. Susa noma isiphi isizathu abangazizwa banaso sokulawula okwenzayo.
Phuma uye uzitholele indawo yakho ngokushesha okukhulu, noma ngabe lokhu kusho ukuthuthela endaweni engabizi kakhulu ungene endaweni enkulu ngokwanele. Akudingi ukuthi kube yikhaya lakho laphakade, endaweni ethile nje ukuze ubalekele isimilo sabazali bakho.
Setha Imingcele Eqinile, Noma Ungabelani Ngalokho Abayikho
Kumele wazi ukuthi ulayini wakho obomvu ukuphi lapho ukuziphatha kudlula lokho ozokwamukela.
Futhi uma usuzenzile lezi zinto, kufanele uqine ekusebenziseni kwakho.
impilo iyikho oyenza inkondlo
Sikhulume ngezibonelo ezinkulu ezi-3 zemigqa ebomvu phambilini, kepha ungahle ube nezinye izinombolo zokuziphatha othola ukuthi akubekezeleleki.
Konke lokhu kuyingxenye yohlelo lwakho jikelele lokubhekana nabazali bakho. Kufanele wazi ukuthi yisiphi isinyathelo ozosithatha lapho umngcele othile usuwelile.
Ngabe ushiya lesi simo ngokushesha ukukhombisa ukuthi aweneme ngendlela abaziphathe ngayo?
Ngabe ubanike iziteleka ezi-3 ngaphambi kokuthi uhambe?
Ngabe uhlala uthule futhi uyenqaba ukuzibandakanya?
Ingabe ulwa nekhoneni lakho?
Noma yini oyenzayo, futhi kuya ngokuhambisana.
Kwezinye izimo, uma abazali bakho bevikela ikakhulukazi lapho uzama ukukhuluma ngokuziphatha kwabo, awudingi nokubatshela ukuthi imingcele yakho iyini.
Eqinisweni, kuzosiza okuncane ukubatshela. Kungenza ngisho nokuziphatha kwabo kube kubi kakhulu.
Kepha usengalandela uhlelo lwakho njalo lapho imigqa yakho ebomvu yeqiwa. Ungazithathela izinyathelo wena kanye nalabo obakhathalelayo okungenzeka futhi babe ngaphansi kokuziphatha kwabazali bakho.
Konke kuya ngokuthi isikali esilawulayo sikude kangakanani.
Uma bezikhukhumeza, kepha usenobudlelwano obuhle, ukukhuluma nabazali bakho ubachaze ukuthi kungani ukuziphatha kwabo kubuhlungu kuyisu elifanele.
Uma ungakwazi ukukhuluma amagama amabili kubazali bakho ngaphambi kokucasuka, noma uma benqaba nje ukulalela noma yini oyishoyo, akunasisekelo ukuveza imingcele yakho.
Ungalokothi Uthathe Phansi Umzabalazo
Akekho ofisa ukuthi abazali babo babelawula, kepha okwakho kuyakho. Kufanele ubhekane nakho.
Kepha akulula.
Uzobhekana nalo lonke uhla lwemizwa emibi yomuntu futhi uzolwa. Kungavivinya impilo yakho yengqondo nenhlala-kahle yakho.
Uma ukwazi, yenza isakhiwo sokweseka okuzungezile. Abangane abasondele, ozakwethu, abelaphi, kanye namanye amalungu omndeni angakusiza ezikhathini ezinzima.
Ezweni elihle, ubudlelwano bethu bomzali bekungaba yibo ebesingathembela kubo kakhulu, kepha lomhlaba awukalungi neze.
Ukuthi ubhekana kanjani naleli qiniso kukuwe. Sethemba ukuthi lo mhlahlandlela ukunikeze amasu athile wokubhekana nokuwa kwabazali abalawulayo.
Bhekana kangcono nokulawula abazali ngokufunda lencwadi enhle kakhulu.
Chofoza lapha ukuze ufunde kabanzi .
Leli khasi liqukethe izixhumanisi ezihambisanayo. Ngithola ikhomishini encane uma ukhetha ukuthenga noma yini ngemuva kokuchofoza kuzo.
