Ukuphupha kusebenze indima ebalulekile ekunikezeni ingqondo yakho isikhathi esincane sokuphumula.
Impilo inengcindezi. Sinezikhathi ezibekiwe emsebenzini, ukuwashwa, ukugeza izitsha, mhlawumbe nezingane okufanele sizilandele. Bese kuba nodaba lwezindaba nakho konke okwenzekayo emhlabeni.
Ngubani ongadingi isikhathi esincane sokuphunyuka njalo ngezikhathi ezithile?
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Wonke umuntu wenza ngandlela thile.
Kunezindlela ezinempilo zokwenza lokho - njengokutshuza ungene encwadini, ukuthatha iholide, ukubuka ifilimu, noma ukuzivocavoca umzimba. Futhi kunezindlela ezingenampilo zokukwenza - njengotshwala, ukusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa, noma ukugwema.
Zonke lezo zindlela ezinempilo zokuphunyuka kancane zingaba yimpilo uma ziphazamisa ikhono lakho lokuqhuba impilo yakho. Kungaleso sikhathi lapho izinto zokuzilibazisa njengokufunda, ukubuka ama-movie, imidlalo yevidiyo, noma ukuzivocavoca zithatha imithwalo yemfanelo lapho siqala ukungena enkingeni.
Ukuphupha kuhlukile.
Akukho lutho olungalungile ngokuphunyuka okuncane ngezikhathi ezithile. Kodwa lapho amaphupho akho eqala ukuphazamisa imithwalo yakho yemfanelo, weqa umngcele uye kokuthi “Iphupho Elibi Lokuphaphalaza.”
Kuyini Ukuphupha Ngezinsuku Okungafaneleki?
IMaladaptive Daydreaming yisifo sengqondo esakhonjwa nguProfesa Eliezer Somer wase-University of Haifa kwa-Israel. Ayifakwanga kwi-DSM-V futhi ayinalo uhlelo lokwelashwa oluhambisana nayo. Kodwa-ke, yaziwa njengenkinga yokuphazamisa abantu ababhekana nayo.
Iphupho elingalunganga lasemini lingadalwa yizigameko zangempela ezenza umuntu afune ukweqa kuleso simo. Amaphupho emini angadalwa yimisindo, iphunga, ingxoxo noma okuhlangenwe nakho komzimba.
Izimpawu zifaka:
- Ukuphazamiseka kokulala
- Amaphupho emini acace bha anezinto eziyinkimbinkimbi ezifana nabalingiswa, isakhiwo, noma i-arc yendaba
- Isifiso esinamandla sokuqhubeka nokuziphupha
- Ukunyakaza okuphindaphindwayo ngenkathi uphupha
- Ukuhleba, ukukhuluma, ukwenza ubuso ngenkathi uphupha
- Amaphupho abangelwa imicimbi yangempela
ngicabanga ukuthi ngingumuntu omubi
- Ikhono lokukhubazeka lokuqedela imisebenzi ejwayelekile
- Ukuphupha emaminithini kuya emahoreni ngasikhathi
Yize kwaziwa njengesimo sengqondo, alukho ulwazi oluningi oluyiqiniso mayelana nokwelashwa nokuluhlula. Kungaba ngumphumela wezimo ezimbi zokuphila lapho ukweqa kuyisidingo sokubhekana ngokomzwelo nokuhlukunyezwa okuqhubekayo noma ukuhlukumezeka. Kungaba futhi uphawu lwesinye isifo sengqondo noma umphumela wendlela yokuphila engenampilo.
Umuntu kufanele aqonde ukuthi kungani bephupha kangaka ukuthola isixazululo senkinga.
Kungani uphupha kangaka?
Ukuthola isisombululo kuqala ngokukhomba inkinga. Ungakwazi yini ukuthola izizathu zokuthi kungani uphupha emini?
Abanye abantu baphupha ukuze babhekane nemizwa futhi babalekele izinhlungu zempilo yangempela. Ukuphupha kungaba yinto yokubalekela ukucindezeleka noma eminye imizwa engemihle lowo muntu angafuni ukubhekana nayo.
Kungenzeka ukuthi kuyindlela yokuzizwa unethemba ngawe noma ukuzithokozisa kwakho ngokucabanga ngemiphumela emihle noma umhlaba omnandi lapho izinto zingcono kunokuphila kwangempela.
Abanye abantu bayisebenzisa njengendlela yokuzikhohlisa ngokukhumbula okuthile okubuhlungu. Ngokucabanga ngesimo esikhathazayo esinomphumela omubi njengesimo esikhathazayo esinomphumela omuhle, iphupho lasemini empeleni lingazikhohlisa ngokukholelwa amanga alungile.
Lokho kungazwakala kuyinto enhle, kodwa akunjalo. Lolo hlobo lokuphunyuka luvimbela umuntu ekuphulukisweni kunoma yini embi eyenzekile ngokukugwema ngokuphelele ukuze likhule futhi libuye ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ngendlela embi kakhulu.
Cabanga ukuthi yiziphi izinhlobo zamaphupho onawo nenhloso yawo. Ingabe uzama ukuziphazamisa? Ukubalekela isimo esibi sengqondo? Dlulisa isikhathi? Noma nje uzenze uzizwe ungcono?
izinto ezimnandi ukuzenza wedwa ekhaya
Yimaphi amaphethini akhona ekuphupheni kwakho kwasemini?
Ingabe ungawabona amaphethini athile wokuthi uphupha kanjani? Mhlawumbe uthola ingqondo yakho isiya emaphusheni lapho ubhekene nengcindezi noma imininingwane enzima.
Akukona okungenangqondo ukufuna ukuphunyuka ebubini bomhlaba isikhashana. Ungathola ukuthi ingqondo yakho iqala ukuzama ukushelela lapho ubukele izindaba futhi ukhathazeka ngezehlakalo ongazilawuli.
Mhlawumbe yingcindezi evela esikoleni, ekhaya, noma impilo yomndeni edala ukuthi uhambe. Kungenzeka nokuthi udinga nje indlela yokubulala isikhathi esithile ungenakho okunye okwenzekayo okwamanje.
Ingabe ikhona inhlamvu engakhomba lapho uzithola ususephusheni lokuziphupha?
Thola indlela yokusebenza nxazonke noma ukunciphisa izingqinamba ezikhona.
Ukunciphisa i-trigger ekhona kulula ukusho kunokukwenza. Kungahle kungenzeki ukuyichitha ngokuphelele, okungukuthi, susa isakhi esingokomzwelo noma isikhuthazi esikubangela ukuba ushelele emaphusheni.
Kepha uma ukwazi, kufanele. Mhlawumbe uzithola usemaphusheni emini ngenkathi ubuka izindaba njengendlela yokuphunyuka. Lokho kungabalwa ngokubuka izindaba ezimbalwa.
Umsebenzi ocindezelayo noma ubudlelwane kungaba nzima ukushiya. Noma kunjalo, kungadingeka uma kuthinta kabi impilo yakho yengqondo kuze kube sezingeni lapho udinga khona ukubaleka njalo.
Ezinye izimo zinobuthi nje, futhi azikwazi ukusetshenzwa ngempela uma omunye umuntu engaboni nkinga nganoma yini eyenzekayo. Kwesinye isikhathi leso yisinqumo esibi okumele usenzele wena nenhlalakahle yakho kuphela.
Thuthukisa ukucabanga kwakho nokuqwashisa.
Ukucabanga kahle kuyithuluzi elinamandla lokulwa nokuphupha emini ngoba kumayelana nokugxila kulokhu namanje.
Ukuphupha kuvame ukwenzeka lapho sivumela izingqondo zethu zishelele kude nathi ziye emicabangweni ekude nasezenzekweni eziqanjiwe.
ungakhombisa kanjani umuntu ukuthi ubalulekile kuwe
Ngokuzijwayeza ukucabanga, sisebenzela ukuzinza phansi okwamanje lapho njengamanje sikhona ngokuqaphela okugcwele kwalowo mzuzu. Awubhekile kulokho okungaba noma okungenzeki, okungenzeka noma okungenzeki, okuza phambili noma ngemuva kwakho.
Ukushicilela kungaba yindlela enhle kakhulu yokwenza ngcono ukucabanga kwakho. Konke okudingeka ukwenze ukuthi uthathe isikhathi sokubhala phansi ukuthi ucabangani manje, uzizwa kanjani, futhi ubona ini.
Kungumkhuba olula ongasiza ukuletha nokugcina ingqondo yakho okwamanje ngomkhuba owenele. Kukwenza ukwazi ukugxila futhi kuthuthukise ikhono lakho lokukhomba lapho ingqondo yakho ikhukhuleka.
Ukuphupha ngokuzenzela.
Ukuphupha kungaba ithuluzi eliwusizo lokuzithuthukisa kanye nokubonisa lapho ulisebenzisa ngendlela egxilile.
Kungaba umqondo omuhle ukusebenzisa leso sikhathi ukucabanga ngempilo engcono ofuna ukuyisebenzela, ucabangele ukuthi yiziphi izingqinamba eziphambi kwakho, nokuthi yimiphi imigomo okufanele uyilandele.
Lokho ukubona okuhle ingasiza futhi ekucindezelekeni nasekukhathazekeni ngokuzivumela ungene endaweni ephephile okungeyakho kuphela ukuba ube kuyo futhi uyihlole. Lokho kungakusiza uphumule futhi wehlise umoya uma uhlangabezana nobunzima.
Cabanga ngosizo lochwepheshe.
Kunamazinga ahlukene okuphupha ephuma ebangeni elibi kuya kone-maladaptive. Kuyinto evamile ukuphupha njalo njalo. Akuvamile noma kunempilo ukuthi amaphupho aphazamise ikhono lakho lokuziphatha impilo yakho.
Ungahle ukwazi ukubhekana nokuziphupha okulingene njengokubalekela wedwa, kepha futhi kungakhomba enkingeni enkulu ukuthi ungadinga usizo lochwepheshe.
Uma uthola ukuthi impilo yakho ihlala iphazanyiswa ukuphupha, kungaba kuhle ukukhuluma nochwepheshe oqinisekisiwe wezempilo yengqondo ngalokho obhekene nakho. Chofoza lapha ukuthola eyodwa.
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