Abesifazane abaningi bakhungatheka ngendlela emangalisayo lapho abayeni babo bengakwenzi isabelo sabo esifanelekile endlini.
Abesifazane abagcini nje ngokusebenza kanzima okungakhokhelwa kakhulu kunabesilisa abaningi, kepha ngokuvamile kufanele bathathe nemisebenzi eminingi yasekhaya.
Kungani lokhu kwenzeka? Esikhathini sethu sanamuhla sokulingana ngokobulili (noma okungenani siyethemba ukuthi kuyalingana ngalesi sikhathi), kungani kusekhona ukungalingani okunjalo uma kukhulunywa ngemisebenzi nokusebenza ekhaya?
Ake sibheke izizathu ezimbalwa ezinkulu zokuthi kungani umyeni wakho angahle angakusizi ngalutho, nokuthi yini ongayenza ngakho.
Kunzima Ukwephula Imikhuba Egxilile
Izinkulungwane zeminyaka, imisebenzi yasekhaya ibithathwa 'njengomsebenzi wabesifazane.' Amadoda ayesebenza ngaphandle kwendlu, ngakho iziko nekhaya kwakuyisizinda senkosikazi. Ngokuvamile wayebhekene nokupheka, ukuhlanza, nokukhulisa iningi lezingane.
Lokhu kushukumiseka kukhona emhlabeni wonke, futhi kusabusa ezindaweni eziningi. Khumbula ukuthi abesifazane abasebenza ngaphandle kwekhaya sekuyinto ejwayelekile eminyakeni engama-50 edlule.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngokuya ngokukhuliswa kwamasiko, imindeni eminingi isenobudlelwano lapho owesifazane engumnakekeli wasendlini osebenzela khona.
Uma umyeni wakho akhulele emndenini lapho umama wakhe ayenza khona imisebenzi yasekhaya, lokho kungasiza kakhulu ekuchazeni ukuthi kungani ehlala emuva futhi ekuvumela ukuthi unakekele umsebenzi wasekhaya.
Ngemuva kwakho konke, uma engakhuliswanga ngemisebenzi yasendlini nezibopho epuletini lakhe, mhlawumbe ucabanga nje ukuthi lezi zinto ziyazinakekela. Lokhu kungaba yiqiniso ikakhulukazi uma ehlala nowesifazane ngaphandle kukanina okokuqala.
Angamane akubeke endimeni yomama / umphathi wendlu ngoba yilokho kuphela owaziwa ngakho.
Cishe Akaqapheli Lokho Akwenzayo (Noma Angenzi)
Cabanga ngalelo phuzu lokugcina isikhashana.
Uma umuntu ekhuliswe ngesakhiwo esithile somndeni, futhi eke wazibonela ngawakhe mathupha, kungaba nzima kakhulu kubo ukucabanga nganoma yini ngaphandle kwesipiliyoni sabo sempilo.
Lokhu ungahle ukuhlobanise nomuntu okhulele emndenini okholwayo kakhulu, lapho engazange abe nokuchayeka kunoma yimuphi omunye ukholo. Babengeke bafunde ngezinye izinkolo, futhi babengenawo umqondo wokuthi kunezinye izinkolo laphaya. Ngenxa yalokho, izingqondo zabo ziyashaywa lapho bethola ukuthi abantu kwezinye izindawo bakholelwa okwehlukile kunalokho abakholelwa kukho.
It kind of makes them short circuit a little bit because they have to consciously rewire everything they have ever known, konke abake bakufundiswa.
Manje, landisa lokho kumuntu okhuliswe ekhaya lapho umama ebepheka futhi ehlanza khona. Umyeni wakhe kanye nendodana yakhe kungenzeka ukuthi abakaze babambe iqhaza ekulungiseleleni ukudla: bavele bahlala phansi esidlweni sakusihlwa lapho sekulungile.
Ukuwashwa kwezimpahla kwaphonswa kokuphazamisayo, futhi kwabonakala kuhlanzekile futhi kusongwe emakhabetheni abo. Okhaphethi babehlala behlanzekile, imibhede yayihlale yenziwa. Noma ngabe enye yamadoda emndenini yanikela ukusiza, kungenzeka bakhishelwe egumbini lokuphumula nekhofi nebhisikidi ngenkathi umama egcina ikhishi likhanya ngendlela ayethanda ngayo.
Ungahle uzizwe ukhungathekile ngokumangazayo ngalesi simo, kepha zama ukuhlala uzinze futhi unengqondo ngaso.
Kulula ukucasuka noma ukwenziwa ulaka, kepha lezo zindlela kuyaqabukela zisize noma yini.
Esikhundleni salokho, sebenza ngokuzimisela futhi ube nengqondo. Ukuzincinza nokukhononda kuzovala umyeni wakho kuphela, kanti indlela enengqondo yokuxazulula inkinga isethubeni elikhulu lokwenza ushintsho lwangempela.
Ngakho-ke ake siqhubekele kwezinye zezindlela ongashintsha ngazo amandla asekhaya abe ngokulingana okuthe xaxa.
1. Yenza Uhlu
Amadoda amaningi enza kahle impela ngezimpawu zokubukwa kunemiqondo engaqondakali, ngakho-ke yenza uhlu.
Hlukanisa ikhasi lephepha eligcwele umugqa phakathi nendawo. Kwikholamu yokuqala, bhala phansi yonke imisebenzi edinga ukwenziwa ekhaya, futhi ngiqonde ukuthi konke. Ukulungiselela ukudla, ukuwashwa kwezitsha, ukuwashwa, ukwenziwa kombhede… uyakuqamba igama.
Ohlwini lwesibili, bhala igama lomuntu onakekela leyo misebenzi kaningi kunalokho.
Bese hlala phansi nomyeni / umlingani wakho ubabonise ukuthi ngamunye wenu ubekade enza malini, bese uchaza ukuthi kungani kufanele kube nokulinganisela okuningi.
Zilungiselele ukuhlangabezana nokuphikiswa okusheshayo nokuzivikela. Ngokombono wakhe, kungenzeka ukuthi wenza okuningi, ngoba cishe wenza imisebenzi yasendlini edlula leyo kayise. Kuye, uyasebenza futhi uwusizo olukhulu endlini.
Zama ukumbekezelela phakathi nale nqubo, bese uchaza ukuma kwakho ngaphandle kokuba nolaka noma ukhathazeke ngokweqile ngakho. Uma ngabe uke waba sesikhundleni sokuphatha emsebenzini, sondela kule ngxoxo ngendlela obengenza ngayo nozakwenu.
Ngemuva kwakho konke, nobabili ningabalingani bempilo, akunjalo? Ngakho-ke sondela kulokhu njengokusebenzisana kwabalinganayo, ngenhlonipho nangokusebenza kahle.
2. Siza Ukushintsha Umbono Wakhe
Amadoda akhulele kulo hlobo lwendlu olushiwo ngenhla angaziqhenya ngokuthi “asizile” ngomsebenzi wasendlini.
Babona kungumsebenzi wowesifazane, nokuthi bayasebenza, abalingani abahle ngokwenza lokho abakubona kumsiza ngomthwalo wakhe womsebenzi.
Uzothola into efanayo uma ubhekisa ekunakekelweni / ekukhulisweni kwezingane. Abesilisa bangaxoxa ngokuziqhenya ngokuthi 'bazigada' kanjani izingane ngalobo busuku ngoba umama uphumile nabangane bakhe.
Cha, lokho akukhona ukugcina izingane ukukhulisa izingane. Akuwona umsebenzi womama ukunakekela izingane eyedwa, ngakho-ke omunye umzali uyasukuma enze isabelo sakhe, hhayi ngesibindi ukuthwala umthwalo womama lapha.
Kunjalo nangomsebenzi wasendlini. Uma umuntu ehlala endlini, khona-ke kungumsebenzi wabo ukusiza ukuyinakekela. Ingabe bagqoka izingubo? Ngemuva kwalokho badinga ukuwageza. Ingabe bayadla? Ngemuva kwalokho bangenza isabelo sabo esifanele sokupheka nokugeza izitsha.
Kukubabili kini ukuthi nifuna ukusabalalisa kanjani imithwalo yemfanelo yasendlini, inqobo nje uma nobabili nigcina ninakekele izinto.
Isibonelo, elinye ikhaya lingahle libe nezindima ezithile, lapho inkosikazi ipheka kakhulu, iwasha futhi ihlanza, kuyilapho umyeni enakekela izitsha, esula uthuli nodoti.
Leyo yimisebenzi esunguliwe edinga ukunakekelwa, futhi uma kungenjalo, khona-ke kukhona umuntu omdala othile obhekene nabo oxegayo.
Lokhu kulula kunokumane kwenziwe mahhala lapho izinto zenziwa 'noma nini'… ikakhulu ngoba zizogcwaliseka zenziwe ngumuntu obekade ezibanakekela unomphela.
Shayela ngempela iqiniso lokuthi njengoba nobabili nihlala kule ndawo, nobabili kufanele niyinakekele. Ndawonye.
3. Nquma ngokwahlukaniswa okulungile kwemisebenzi
Uma kukhulunywa ngokuchaza imisebenzi ehlukene yasekhaya nemithetho, kubalulekile ukuthi ubhekele zonke izici zomsebenzi.
Isibonelo, uma nobabili nisebenza ngaphandle kwendlu, kodwa omunye usebenza ngokugcwele kanti omunye usebenza amatoho, ngakho-ke kunengqondo ukuthi lowo osebenza itoho enze eminye imisebenzi yasekhaya.
Uma ungathanda ukugcina izinto zingapheli, dala isondo lomsebenzi, bese usipota njalo ngempelasonto. Lokhu kuzodala amashejuli emisebenzi ahlukahlukene masonto onke, ngakho-ke umuntu oyedwa akabambekile emsebenzini wokuhlanza noma wokugeza izitsha ingunaphakade.
Bese kuthi, uma kukhona eminye yemisebenzi engazange inakekelwe, kucace bha ukuthi ngubani ongazange adonse isisindo sakhe.
Kubalulekile futhi ukukhumbula ukuthi eminye imisebenzi ithatha isikhathi esiningi nomzamo omkhulu kuneminye: hhayi nje ngenxa yemvamisa, kepha ngenxa yokusebenza komzimba / kwengqondo.
Isibonelo, uma kungumuntu oyedwa kuphela ophekayo, lokhu kungumsebenzi omkhulu odinga ukwenziwa.
4. Thola Okudlulele: Qhubeka Nesiteleka
Esimweni esibi kakhulu, uma usuvele uzame izindlela ezifana nesondo lomsebenzi kanye / noma imisebenzi owabelwe futhi umyeni wakho usaxegisa, impendulo enamandla ingahle idingeke.
Angase angaboni ukuthi kungakanani umzamo okwenziwayo ekwenzeni ikhaya lihambe kahle. Ngokunjalo, akaqondi ukuthi kuzokwenzekani uma uyeka ukucosha islack aqhubeka nokuwisa.
Ngakho-ke yiya esitelekeni.
Zithathele wena kuphela, uziphekele, uzenzele ilondolo.
Uma edidizela ngoba engenazo izingubo zangaphansi ezihlanzekile noma amahembe okusebenza, khomba kubhasikidi ogcwele izingubo ezingcolile bese uphikelela ukuthi uziwashe yena.
Ngabe ukhononda ngokuthi akukho okudliwayo, ngoba akazi ukupheka? Uxolo, izaba 'Angazi ukupheka' azindizi kunoma ngubani ongaphezu kweminyaka yobudala engama-20. Heck, kunezindlela zokupheka ezanele kanye nezifundo ze-YouTube ngaphandle lapho noma ngubani angenza isidlo esihloniphekile.
Akukho shampoo noma insipho eshaweni? Kungcono uhambe uyothenga. Uzofunda ukwazi kangcono ukuthi iphepha lasendlini yangasese lidinga ukushintshwa nini.
Yebo, kunengozi yokuthi lezi zinhlobo zezinyathelo ezeqile zingathinta ubuhlobo bakho. Sethemba ukuthi awusoze wabhekisa kulezi, futhi umyeni wakho uzokwenyuka enze isabelo sakhe ngaphandle kokuthi ungene esitelekeni ngokugcwele.
Uma, noma kunjalo, kufanele ubhekele kulokhu, lapho-ke kungakufanele ingozi. Impendulo yakhe kulesi simo inganquma kahle inkambo yawo wonke umshado wakho:
Kuphakathi kokuthi uzobona ukuthi kuningi kangakanani okufanele ukwenze njalo futhi akhuphuke, noma azolungiselela ukuthi enze isabelo sakhe esifanele, futhi afune ukuphuma. Uma kungokwangaphambili, khona-ke yay! Unomlingani owesabekayo, olinganayo okuthandayo futhi okuhloniphayo ngokwanele ukuba yilungu elisebenzayo lomndeni.
Uma kungenjalo, okungenani uyazi manje, futhi ungazivikela impilo yobugqila impilo yonke, unakekele izidingo zomunye umuntu kanye nemicabango yakhe imini nobusuku.
I-caveat ebalulekile: uma umyeni wakho ekuhlukumeza nganoma iyiphi indlela engokomzimba noma engokomzwelo, ukuteleka akuwona umqondo omuhle. Kungaholela ekuhlaselweni noma ekuziphindiseleni okungabeka ukuphepha kwakho noma inhlalakahle engcupheni. Uma kunjalo, i-athikili yethu ithi ukushiya ubudlelwano obunobuthi kungaba yilokho ofuna ukukufunda.
5. Uma Unezingane, Zifundise Ngokuhlukile
Indlela enhle yokugwema uhlobo lokumelana nomsebenzi wasendlini futhi lokhu esixoxe ngakho lapha ukwehlisa lokho okulindelwe kubhulogi. Okungukuthi, ungakhulisi izingane zakho ngendlela efanayo nawe (noma umyeni wakho) okhuliswe ngayo.
Baqalise emisebenzini yasekhaya ekuseni kakhulu. Babonise ukuthi wonke umuntu ubamba iqhaza kuzo zonke izici zokunakekelwa kwasekhaya nomndeni, ngakho-ke bafunda ukuthi njengengxenye yomndeni, bayingxenye yakho konke okuthintekayo.
Ingane yakho encane ngeke ikwazi ukugeza izitsha, kodwa izokusiza ngokujabula ukungeza izithako ekuxubeni izitsha (ikakhulukazi uma zifika zikhothe isipuni kamuva). Ingabe ingane yakho yangaphambi kwentsha icasukile emcabangweni wokuthi kufanele iqoqe okuthile? Banikeze imihlomulo njengesabelo esikhulu ukuze bafunde ukubaluleka kwesikhathi namandla abo.
Uma izingane zikhula zinomqondo wokunikela kwasekhaya njengokujwayelekile, zizolungela kakhulu ukuba ngabantu abadala abazimele uma sebengaphandle kwendlu.
Futhi, abalingani babo ngeke bakhathazeke futhi bakhungatheke ngokuba nomama2.0 noma.
Konke Lokhu Kusebenza Kunoma Yibuphi Ubambiswano Lobulili
Inothi lokugcina, futhi elibaluleke kakhulu: yize le ndatshana igxile embonweni wendoda engenzi isabelo sayo esifanelekile endlini, lesi simo ngokuqinisekile asigcini kubalingani besilisa.
Kunezimo eziningi lapho unkosikazi (noma omunye umlingani) engenzi ingxenye yakhe efanelekile yomsebenzi wasendlini, futhi kubonakala sengathi ulindele ukuthi abanye bamnakekele lokho. Uma kunjalo, izindlela ezifanayo ezibalwe lapha zizosebenza kuye.
Lokhu kungaba njalo nasezinganeni ezindala ebudlelwaneni / ekubambisaneni okuxubile. Uma ushade nomuntu onezingane ezisuka emshadweni wangaphambilini, kungenzeka uhlangane nohlobo olufanayo lokumelana nalolo okukhulunywe ngalo ekuqaleni.
Uzothola yonke i-push-back kanye nokumelana - ingasaphathwa eyokuziphatha okuthukuthele futhi uphume ngomlomo - uma uzama ukwenza izingane zenze noma imiphi imithwalo yemfanelo yasendlini. Lokho kuzoba kubi kakhulu uma umyeni / umlingani wakho elindele ukuthi nenze yonke imisebenzi futhi uthuswa wumqondo wokwenza izingane zakhe zisebenze endlini. Uma kungakaze kudingeke, kungani kufanele?
Le yinsimu enzima kakhulu ukuxoxisana ngayo. Yebo, kuzodinga ukubekezela nokucabanga, kodwa futhi nesandla esiqinile.
Ngabe awunasiqiniseko sokuthi wenzeni ngokungafuni komyeni wakho ukusiza ukuzungeza indlu noma ngeminye imisebenzi? Xoxa ku-inthanethi kuchwepheshe wezobudlelwano ovela ku-Relationship Hero ongakusiza ukuthola izinto. Kalula.
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