Ukuqamba amanga ngokushiya okuthile kulapho umuntu eshiya imininingwane ebalulekile noma ehluleka ukulungisa iphutha elivele likhona ukuze afihle iqiniso kwabanye.
'Angiqambanga amanga angikutshelanga nje.'
wazi kanjani ukuthi ngiyamthanda
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Abanye abantu babheka okushiwoyo njengamanga angaphezu kwamhlophe nje kuphela, kodwa njengamanga aluhlaza cwe, ngoba ngokushiya imininingwane, awusafihli lutho.
Ukuntuleka kokuba sengozini kanye nokuba sobala kuphazamise ukuxhumana, futhi kuchithe ukuphepha okulindelwe kubo bonke ubudlelwano obusondelene - kungaba ubungani noma ubudlelwano bezothando.
Ukuqamba amanga ngokushiya akuhloselwe ukuthi kube yingozi ngaso sonke isikhathi kucatshangwa njengesenzo esenziwayo ukuvikela ubuhlungu noma ukuphoxeka komamukeli. Kepha kusengaba nomthelela omubi ebudlelwaneni.
Noma umonakalo ungekho ngokushesha, imininingwane ekhishiwe izogcina ivelile. Ukuwa kwalokhu kungadala izinkinga eziningi kunalokho obekuzoba khona ukube imininingwane yabiwe ngokushesha, futhi nokuziphendulela kuthathwe ngumuntu obelana ngakho.
Kungani Sikhipha Amaphuzu Olwazi Olubucayi?
Ngokuvamile kunezizathu ezintathu zabantu abaqamba amanga ngokushiywa:
- Uvalo (ukwamukelwa ngentukuthelo, ukuphindisela, noma ukujeziswa)
- Icala (ngomsebenzi obenze balale kwasekuqaleni)
- Amahloni (ngokonakala kwesithunzi sabo, nokuthi bazobonwa kanjani uma iqiniso lonke belaziwa)
Abantu Baqamba Amanga Kanjani Ngokweqiwa?
Akukona nje ukushiya imininingwane ethile, ukuqamba amanga ngokushiya okuthile kungathatha enye indlela: ukuphatha impendulo yakho kuzwelo lokuqoqa, noma ukuvikela izinhloso zakho.
Kunezinhlangothi ezimbili kuyo yonke indaba - ngabe wabelana ngeyakho kuphela? Uma uhlela izimpendulo zakho ukushiya ubukhali bento eyenzekile ngempela, awuyena oqotho, futhi lokho kungamanga.
Ukhathazeke kakhulu ngokuthi uzovela kanjani emphakathini kunokukwabelana ngeqiniso, nokuthi lokho kuyayifaka imibala indlela abanye abazokuphendula ngayo. Kusho ukuthini lokho? Okokuqala, awutholi eyabo imibono eqotho ngoba awubaniki lonke ulwazi - amaqiniso ayingxenye anikeza izimpendulo ezingaphekiwe.
Isibonelo, uma utshela umngani ngokulwa nomama wakho nokuthi wayengenangqondo kanjani ngoba isitimela sabambezeleka okwenza ukuthi ufike sekwedlule isikhathi sehora emcimbini wakhe wokudla kwakusihlwa, cishe bazokunqekuzisa amakhanda bazwelane, ngoba ake sibhekane ngakho, kwesinye isikhathi siba nomusa kwabanye. Izinto ziyenzeka, ubuchwepheshe buyehluleka, izitimela ziyawohloka, noma ziphinde zenziwe kabusha.
Kodwa-ke, uma ungakunaki ukutshela lowo mngani ukuthi uhambe endlini sekudlule isikhathi sehora ngoba ubumatasa uphenya i-Twitter, bese ubona ukuthi kufanele ugijime, bese uqamba amanga kumama wakho ngokubambezeleka kwesitimela… impendulo yabo iyohluka kanjani ?
ngingayeka kanjani ukuba ngumuntu onobuthi
Awuzange usidwebe isithombe esigcwele ngoba wesaba ukuthi ungabukeka kanjani, kubo, nakunina. Kumama wakho, bekuyobukeka njengokuhamba ngokusebenzisa imithombo yezokuxhumana kwakubaluleke kakhulu kunaye (ngoba ukufika sekwedlule isikhathi uthi, kulungile angikuhloniphi futhi ngibeka phansi isikhathi sakho). Kumngane wakho, ubungabukeka ungenandaba futhi ungenanhlonipho, futhi iqiniso lelo.
Okokugcina, uyazi futhi ukuthi umngani wakho kungenzeka athathe uhlangothi lomama wakho uma wonke amaqiniso edaluliwe, ngakho ubatshela uhlobo oluhleliwe lwemicimbi. Bese kuthi umama wakho abukeke “njengomuntu omubi,” bese uphuma unuka ama-rose.
Lesi yisibonelo esincane nje sokuthi abantu baqamba amanga kanjani nsuku zonke. Ngezindlela ezihlukene eziyisigidi, imininingwane emincane ishiywa ngaphandle ezingxoxweni. Esikutholayo yingxenye yendaba nezinto ezibonakala zingabalulekile ezibuyela emuva zisihluphe ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Uyahlekisa, “Kungamthinti kanjani umuntu ukukhuluma amanga ngesitimela?” Ukushiya imininingwane kukulimaza kanjani wena, nobudlelwano bakho?
Nazi izindlela ezine zokuqamba amanga ngokushiyeka zilimaza wonke umuntu.
Kulimaza Impilo Yakho
Yize iningi labantu licabanga ukuthi livikela elinye iqembu ngokushiya imininingwane ebalulekile, aliqondi ukuthi lizilimaza lingaqondile.
Ukugcina izimfihlo kuyacindezela. Kungadala ukulahleka kokulala, nokukhathazeka okwengeziwe. Kungani? Ngoba umatasa ngokuzama ukugcina inkinga igoqekile, nokugcina indaba yakho iqondile, ngenkathi futhi wesaba ukuthi kuzokwenzekani uma imfihlo ingake iphume.
Ibinzana, “Iqiniso liyonikhulula” akukaze kufaneleke kakhulu. Ngokuvuleleka ngokuphelele nangokwethembeka komunye umuntu, uzikhulula emthwalweni wokufihla lolu lwazi futhi ukhathazeke ngokuwa.
Ukulahlekelwa ukulala, nokucindezelwa, ekugcineni kuzoba nomthelela omubi empilweni yakho yomzimba. Into ebuhlungu ukuthi, ivinjelwe ngokuphelele, futhi isezandleni zakho ngokuphelele.
Kukulimaza Emoyeni
Ukuqamba amanga ngokushiya kungashiya ukunambitheka okubi emlonyeni wakho. Ngaphezu kwezingcindezi nezinkinga zokulala, kungakwenza uzizwe ungokoqobo. Uzizwe njengenkohliso , nangokomzwelo, lokho kungathinta ukuzethemba kwakho.
Esibonelweni esishiwo ngenhla, ingabe uzizwa kamnandi ngemuva kokuthi upendule umama wakho ukuthi abe ngundlovukayiphikiswa ongenangqondo? Ingabe lokho kuhlala kahle kuwe? Kungenzeka ukuthi ulondoloze idumela lakho kumngani wakho, kodwa ungahlosile wenze umama wakho abukeke kabi ngezindleko zakho.
Uma ngabe unenhlonipho ethile, uzozizwa kabi ngayo ngesinye isikhathi. Ukuzivikela ngezindleko zokwenza omunye umuntu abukeke kabi kuzohlala kukukhathaza. Uyazi ukuthi uyabalimaza, futhi unethonya ekutheni abanye abantu bazobabheka kanjani. Kunezinto imali engakwazi ukuzithenga, futhi ukuzihlonipha kungenye yazo.
wazi kanjani ukuthi usuku luhambe kahle nomfana
Kulimaza Ukwethembeka Kwakho
Ukuqamba amanga ngokushiya kubangela ukungathembani. Lapho umuntu obekade umfihlela izinto ethola, amathuba azo ngikuthembe futhi uphume ngewindi.
Akukhathalekile ukuthi bekungokwenzuzo yabo, noma ukunyakaza okuvikelayo, kuzovele kuvele izaba, noma ukuthi kuyini ngempela: ukuzigcina ungangeni enkingeni.
Emehlweni alowo muntu, amanga, amanga. Akukho mthunzi ompunga lapho othile ezwa ukuthi uqanjelwe amanga. Yilelo phuzu abantu abalahlekayo lapho bekholelwa ukuthi ngokushiya okuthile abangaqambi amanga, kepha lapho bezungeza enye indawo enenkungu yemilingo yeqiniso.
Lapho ulwazi seluphumile, ukuthembeka kwakho kuyadutshulwa futhi kuzothatha isikhathi eside (uma kwenzeka) ukukuthola lokho.
Kungobugovu
Okokugcina, kodwa okungenani, ukuqamba amanga ngokushiywa okunobugovu njengesihogo. Ivume. Ezingeni elijulile, ukushiya okuthile akuyona into mayelana ne- okunye imizwa yomuntu imayelana nokuzivikela ekubukekeni kubi.
Uma ucabanga kanzima ngokukhathazeka nokwesaba okuzungeze ukushiya ucezu lolwazi, izikhathi eziyisishiyagalolunye kwezilishumi, esiswini sakho uyazi ukuthi kungokonga isikhumba sakho.
Sithi bekufanele “Vikela omunye umuntu” imvamisa iphoyisa liphuma. Kuyindlela elula yokuphambuka kwesidingo sakho sokulawula umphumela wesimo lapho ungahle ubonakale umbi.
Kungani konke lokhu uzenzela wena, nabantu obakhathalelayo? Akukho lutho oluzizwa lungcono njengokukwazi ukubheka umuntu ebusweni bazi ukuthi uyinguqulo yakho eyiqiniso kakhulu.
Ukwethembeka kukhombisa nezinga elijulile lokuvuthwa nozwela. Uma ungekho matasa ukonga ubuso ngokulimaza abanye, futhi uziphendulele ngokuphelele ngezenzo zakho, akugcini ngokunika amandla okumangazayo, kodwa futhi kunozwelo olukhulu.
Kukhombisa amandla ngobungozi. Kungumuntu ukwenza amaphutha - sonke senza iphutha empilweni yethu. Abekho abantu abaphelele kule planethi, ngakho-ke ake sishiye i-façade, samukele ubuwula bethu, sizisuse uthuli, futhi siqhubeke nempilo ngokuthembeka, futhi ngokugcwele.
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