Noma ngabe ukhathazeka ngomcabango omuhle noma umcabango omubi, uyabheka.
Uma ungeke uyeke ukucabanga ngokuthile futhi kuba yinkinga kuwe, kunezindlela eziningi zokubhekana nalokhu futhi uqhubekele phambili.
Kungaba nzima kakhulu ukulawula izingqondo zethu kwesinye isikhathi, futhi kungazizwa kungenakwenzeka, kepha kuyindaba yokuthola indlela esebenza kuwe.
Kungakho sihlanganise izindlela ezinhle eziyi-12 zokuyeka ukucabanga ngokuthile, ukuze ukwazi ukuqhubeka nokuzizwa uphilile futhi ujabule ngokwedlulele.
1. Xazulula ukukhathazeka kwakho.
Isinyathelo sokuqala sokukusiza uyeke ukucabanga ngokuthile ukusombulula.
Kuyini umqondo wakho ugxile kangaka?
Zinike isikhathi sokuthola ukuthi kwenzekani ngempela, futhi ungesabi ukumba ujule kancane. Into ozama ukuyigwema empeleni ingahle ingabi yilokho ocabanga ukuthi iyikho…
Isibonelo, ungahle ucindezele ngesethulo emsebenzini. Uthathe isinqumo sokuthi ufuna ukuyeka ukucabanga ngephrezentheshini, kepha akubonakali kukukwenza uzizwe ukhathazeka kancane.
Lokho kungenzeka ngoba isethulo empeleni akusikhathazi - iqiniso lokuthi wesaba umphathi wakho. Lokho kuyinkinga ehluke ngokuphelele, futhi ngeke isuke noma ngabe uyeka kangakanani ukucabanga ngesethulo.
Esikhundleni salokho, udinga ukubhekana nenkinga nomphathi wakho. Ngabe ikhona indlela ongasebenzela ngayo ebudlelwaneni bakho nabo, ungakhuluma nomnyango wakho we-HR uma kunodaba oluqhubekayo olufana nokuxhashazwa noma ukuhlukunyezwa, ungabika komunye umuntu?
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Ngokukhuluma ne- kwangempela ukukhishwa , ususondele ekutholeni ifayela le- Isixazululo sangempela.
Lapho ungena kakhulu kokushayela le mizwa nokuthi yini ekwenza ufune ukugwema okuthile okungaka, uba nethuba elikhulu lokulungisa - futhi ukwazi ukuyeka ukucabanga ngakho unomphela!
2. Khulumisanani bese niqhubeka.
Kwesinye isikhathi kungasiza ukukhipha imicabango yethu ohlelweni lwethu kunokuyifaka emabhodleleni ezingqondweni zethu.
Lokho kungasho ukukhuluma ngabo nothandekayo esimethembayo ngempela.
Vumela ukwethembeka ngokuphelele nganoma yini oyigxile kakhulu - khuluma ngokuthi kukwenza uzizwe kanjani, yimiphi imiphumela ocindezelekile noma othokozile ngayo, kanye ngani ufuna ukwazi ukuyeka ukucabanga ngakho.
Lapho uvuleka ngokwengeziwe, maningi amathuba okuthi uzokwazi ukuvala umnyango kuso maduze.
Uma kukhona okuthile ozama ukukugwema ukucabanga ngakho - noma ngabe kuyi- kuhle into - ukuqinisekisa ukuthi abangani bakho nomndeni wakho bayakwazi lokho kungasiza ngempela.
Kungaba nzima uma labo abaseduze kwakho beletha izihloko ozama ukuzigwema, futhi ubazise ukuthi yini hhayi ukukhuluma nawe kungenza kube lula ukuyeka ukucabanga ngokuthile okuqondile.
Bazise ukuthi kungani uzama ukugwema le micabango, futhi bazokusekela futhi baqonde.
Lapho abanye abantu bekukhumbuza kancane ngaleyo nto ozama ukungacabangi ngayo, mancane ‘ama-trigger’ akhona futhi lapho ungagxila khona kakhulu ekutholeni ikhanda lakho liqhubeke futhi uqhubeke nezinto.
3. Hlala umatasa nezinye izinto.
Noma ngabe uzama ukugwema okuthile okukwenza uzizwe ukhathazekile, noma uzama ukuhlala uzolile futhi uyeke ukujabula ngokweqile ngento enkulu, ukuhlala umatasa kuyikhambi elifanele lemicabango ezungeza nxazonke.
Gcina ingqondo yakho iphazamisekile nezinye izinto ngangokunokwenzeka. Lokho kungasho ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi nabangane, ukusebenza, ukwenza okuthile okulula njengamaphazili ukuze ingqondo yakho igxile kulokho, noma ukubukela ukubukela okuhle kakhulu.
Noma yini ezothatha ingqondo yakho futhi ikhathale umzimba wakho ilungile!
4. Xazulula inkinga ngemiphumela engaba khona.
Kulungile, ake sithi ugwema ukucabanga ngokuthile ngoba kubangela imizwa emibi, kungaba yilokho kucindezeleka, ukukhathazeka, noma ukudabuka.
Sivame ukubambeka kakhulu emizweni yethu, ikakhulukazi leyo esingayithandi, ukuthi singazihloli kakhulu. Lokhu kuyaqondakala - kungani ungafuna ukuhlala naleyo mizwa isikhathi eside kunalokho okudingayo?
Kodwa-ke, ngokubhekana nemizwa, ungathola izindlela zokuyinqoba.
Yenza uhlu lwemiphumela oyesabayo. Ake sithi ukhathazekile ngokuthi uzolahlekelwa ngumsebenzi nganoma yisiphi isizathu. Ukuze ukwazi ukuyeka ukucabanga ngalokho, udinga ukucabanga ngemiphumela engaba khona yalokho okwenzekayo, uwaxazulule, bese uqhubeka.
Ngokuthola izixazululo zezinkinga ezingaba khona ezihlobene nemizwa yakho, ungavalwa futhi ekugcineni uyeke ukucabanga ngodaba.
Isibonelo, ukulahlekelwa umsebenzi kungahle kube nemiphumela ehlukahlukene, kufaka phakathi ubunzima bokukhokha irenti yakho, ukuzizwa unamahloni, ukuthola kunzima ukuthola umsebenzi omusha njll.
Ngakho-ke, ake sixazulule leyo miphumela engenzeka…
Ungaqala ukonga imali manje ngokwenza ukuncipha okuncane, ungakhuluma nabathandekayo bakho abazokunika ukuzethemba futhi bakusekele, ungathuthukisa i-CV yakho bese uqala ukukhuluma nezinye izinhlaka zokuqasha.
Ngokuphazima kweso, leyo nto ozama ukuyigwema ukuyicabanga ayisabisi kangako ngoba uvumile ukuthi yiziphi ezinye izingqinamba ezingabanga yizo, futhi uyazi ukuthi uzoba nohlelo olukhona uma lezo zinkinga zivela.
5. Ungazibhali ngokweqile ngezinto ezinhle!
Lokhu kuyefana nephuzu lethu elingenhla, kepha kugxile emcabangweni omuhle kakhulu ozama ukuwugwema.
Mhlawumbe uzama ukungacabangi ngephathi yakho yosuku lokuzalwa ezayo, noma ngeholide olibhukhile.
Ungahle uzame ukugwema ukucabanga ngalezi zinto ngoba wesaba ukuthi kungenzeka zingenzeki. Uma kunjalo, ungalandela indlela efanayo yokuxazulula inkinga.
Ake sithi iqembu lakho likhanselwa ngesizathu esithile, yiziphi ezinye izinketho zakho? Ngokucabanga ngezinye izindlela ezimbalwa, awubeki konke kulesi sehlakalo esisodwa esenzekayo.
Uvuleleke kakhudlwana ezintweni ezishintshayo futhi uzokwazi ukuguquguquka futhi unethezeke uma izinto zidinga ukushintshwa ngomzuzu wokugcina.
Ngokuba neminye imibono elungele ukusebenza, ngeke uzizwe uphoxekile noma ucasukile ngokushesha ngoba usuvele ulungiselele ezinye izindlela ezimangalisayo!
Ngokulinganayo, ungajabula kakhulu futhi ufuna ukubuyela ekuzizweni olinganiselayo. Ungazisiza uzizwe usezingeni elithe xaxa ngokucabanga ngakho ngani ujabule kakhulu.
Mhlawumbe awukwazi ukulinda ukubona abangani abathile, futhi kukwenza uzizwe uphakeme kakhulu, noma uvuseleleke ngokweqile. Esikhundleni sokusuka ku-0 uye ku-100, ungaqala kancane ukwanda uye ku-5 noma ku-10 kusuka manje kuze kube kwenzeka umcimbi.
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Lokho kungabandakanya ukuba nezingcingo ezimbalwa zevidiyo nabangani ngaphambi kwephathi enkulu, ukuze ungakhungatheki kakhulu lapho kwenzeka.
Kungasiza ukuthatha izinyathelo ezimbalwa zokulungiselela iholide ukuze ungalungiswa kakhulu kumcimbi owodwa wobuningi owenzekayo - mhlawumbe qala ukupakisha manje, noma uhlanganise uhambo lwohambo.
Yebo, lokho kusho ukuthi ucabanga ngakho, kepha kukwenza kube lula kakhulu ukulawulwa ezingeni lomzwelo. Esikhundleni somcimbi owodwa omkhulu, unezigaba ezimbalwa ekwakhekeni kwazo ezizokusiza ukuphatha imizwa yakho kangcono.
6. Cabanga ngamathuba amasha.
Uma ungumuntu ophupha kancane noma ulungiswa ngephupho elithile ngekusasa lakho, lokhu kungakusiza impela. Ungahle uzame ukunciphisa umcabango wakho ukuze ungakhuthazwa kakhulu noma ulungiswe kumphumela owodwa wobunye.
Esikhundleni sokulungisa ithuba elilodwa, ake uzicabange ngezindlela eziningi ongakhetha kuzo!
Lokhu kusho ukuthi uzoncipha ngokwasemoyeni ephusheni lakho elilodwa, futhi lizoba nokulawula okuncane futhi likubambe, likwenze kube lula ukuyeka ukucabanga ngakho.
7. Zindla futhi usebenzise ukucabanga.
Enye yezindlela ezinhle kakhulu zokwenza susa izingqondo zethu kokuthile ukuzindla. Le yindlela enhle yokuthula ingqondo futhi ugxile kokuvele kukhona okwamanje.
Noma ngabe uzama ukuyeka ukucabanga ngokuthile okungalungile, noma uzama ukungazindli kakhulu emini, ungazuza ngokucabanga okuthile.
Enye yezindlela ezinhle kakhulu zokusebenzisa ukucabanga ukungena entweni ebizwa ngokuthi 'ukuqaphela.' Le yindlela yokuphatha imicabango nemizwa yakho ngenkathi uzindla.
Kubandakanya ukwamukela iziphazamiso ezivela ngenkathi uzindla, futhi uqaphele ukuthi ngabe yimizwa engokomzimba (umlenze onwenyayo, umqolo obuhlungu, njll.) Noma imicabango.
Ngokulungisa iziphazamiso, ungazivumela zigeze phezu kwakho - imvamisa lapho sizama kanzima ukugwema umcabango onamathela ezingqondweni zethu futhi asikwazi ukuzibamba kodwa ukukulungisa.
Kunezinhlelo zokusebenza eziningi ezimangalisayo laphaya ezingakuqondisa ngokuzindla uma ungazange ukwenze ngaphambilini. Beka umculo othile opholisayo, uthole ukunethezeka, futhi ulungiselele ukuphuma!
Lapho ungazindla njalo, kulapho ingqondo yakho izokujwayela ukuphumula futhi ukhululeke. Ngiyethemba, lapho imicabango ethile ivela, ungavele uyiyeke idlule engqondweni yakho kunokuyigxilisa noma ukuyikhathalela.
Ngokungena kulo mkhuba, izingqondo zethu zixhuma lesi sikhathi sokuzindla sikhululeke ngokwengeziwe futhi singagxili kakhulu emcabangweni owodwa.
8. Phumula futhi ugxile ekuzinakekeleni.
Uma ukuthola kunzima ukuvumela umcabango othile uye eqophelweni lapho ufuna kakhulu ukwazi ukungacabangi ngokuthile, ungahle udinge ukuphumula okwengeziwe!
Kungazwakala sengathi kukhishwa iphoyisa kancane, kepha uma sikhathele, izingqondo zethu zingabaleka kalula nazo ngokwazo.
Uma singalali noma sishaywa umoya ngokwanele, amazinga ethu oxinzelelo ayenyuka, okungasho ukuthi izingqondo zethu zinamathele emcabangweni futhi ngokuzumayo lokho konke esingacabanga ngakho.
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Wake waqaphela ukuthi into ozama ukuyigwema ukuyicabanga ayisiyona neze into enkulu leyo? Esikhundleni salokho, ukukhathazeka okuxakile ubuchopho bakho onakho nakho okwenza ukuthi uzizwe ukhathazeka kakhulu noma ucindezelekile?
Uma lokho kuzwakala kujwayelekile, kungenzeka kakhulu ukuthi uphelelwe amandla ngokwengqondo nangokomzwelo, futhi udinga ukuphumula okwengeziwe.
Khumbula ukuthi izinto ezinjengokudla okunempilo, ukuzivocavoca umzimba, amanzi anele, ukukhanya kwelanga nomoya ohlanzekile konke kwenza umehluko endleleni ozizwa ngayo.
Uma ulwa nemicabango yakho futhi uzizwa sengathi awunakulawula ingqondo yakho njengamanje, gxila enhlalakahleni yakho.
Lawo mandla owafakayo ekucabangeni ngaleyo nto oyicabangayo? Yithumele ekuzinakekeleni kwakho, bese ugcwalisa isikhathi sakho sokuphumula nge-yoga, izifihla-buso zobuso, ukwelashwa, ukuzelula, ukuhlala elangeni.
Yenza noma yini ongayenza ukuze uzizwe ungcono futhi ingqondo yakho izokhululeka ngokwemvelo, ikusize uyeke ukucabanga ngento ekuphazamisile.
9. Khumbula ukuthi lokhu kuzodlula.
Futhi, lokhu kungazwakala kuyisisekelo noma kulula kakhulu - kepha kuyasiza. Lapho usubona ukuthi le micabango ngeke ikukhathaze unomphela, nokuthi maduze uzokhululeka kunoma yini ekugubuzelayo, uzothola kulula ukuvumela lezi zinto zihambe ziyeke ukulungisa.
Okuvame ukwenzeka, ikakhulukazi ngemicabango engemihle, ukuthi sinomcabango, kusenza singakhululeki, sizama ukukuchitha, sigxila ekutheni sizizwa kabi kangakanani ngenxa yaso, umcabango ubuya ngoba siqhubeka nokugxila ekutheni kusenze sazizwa - njalonjalo.
Lokhu kungasebenza emicabangweni emihle, kepha esikhundleni sokuzizwa singakhululekile, sizizwa sijabule noma sijabule, noma sibangela ukukhishwa kwe-dopamine (i-hormone ezwa kahle) bese singena emjikelezweni.
Zama ukukhumbula ukuthi lo mcabango ngeke ukuhluphe isikhathi eside, futhi uzokwazi ukuyeka ukukhathazeka nokucabanga ngakho.
Zijwayeze ukuzenzakalela.
Ezinye zalezi ziphakamiso ziqondiswe kakhulu kubantu abakuthola kunzima ukuyeka ukugxila emcabangweni ongemuhle. Kepha kuthiwani uma uzama ukuyeka ukucabanga ngento ethile ojabule ngayo?
Uma ujabule kakhulu ngokuthile, kunethuba lokuthi ukuhlelele konke ekhanda lakho. Ukuba umhleli kuhle ngezindlela eziningi, kepha futhi kungakudala ukuthi ukhathazeke ngemingcele ngemininingwane emincane.
Uma uzama ukugwema ukucabanga ngento oyihlelile, ungathatha izinyathelo ezincane.
Isibonelo, yiba nesandla ekwenzeni ezinye izinto ezingahlelwanga! Akudingi ukuba noma yini njengokujika esikhumulweni sezindiza nokubhukha indiza elandelayo, ungakhathazeki.
Kungaba into efana nokubiza umuntu ngaphandle kokuyihlela ngaphambi kwesikhathi, ukuthatha ikhofi ngoba nje udlule endaweni ethile ebukeka iyinhle, noma ukuthola indawo yedina ngaphandle kokwenza ukubhuka kuqala.
Lezi ngezinye zezindlela ezinhle ongazijwayeza ukungahleleli, futhi ungazenza nomngani uma ungakhululekile ukuzama wedwa okwamanje.
Lapho uzonethezeka ngokwengeziwe ngokungahleleli izinto noma ukungazi imininingwane eqondile, emincane, uzoqala ngokwengeziwe ukwehla kulokho kucabanga okungalawuleki.
Uma ulungisa ukucabanga ngento oyihlelile, ukuthatha isinyathelo emuva kungasiza impela.
Jwayela ukungakhululeki futhi wenze izinto ngaphandle kokubeka imephu yonke imizuzu yomcimbi. Lokhu kuzokusiza uyeke ukucabanga ngento ethile edlala engqondweni yakho, futhi ungajabulela nje ukuba sesikhathini esiningi.
11. Ukwelapha ngokucwilisa.
Lokhu akusebenzi kuwo wonke umuntu! Kodwa-ke, abanye abantu bangakuthola kuwusizo ukuchitha isikhathi esithile bagxile emcabangweni abafuna ukukugwema. Kuzwakala kubuyela emuva, siyazi, kodwa bekezela…
Kwesinye isikhathi, imicabango iba nzima kakhulu ukuyigwema ngoba sizama ukuyivala ngokushesha lapho ivela. Isibonelo, owake wakudala angavele angene ekhanda lakho kepha awufuni ukubhekana nokuthi lokho kuzwakala kanjani - esikhundleni salokho, weqa esitimeleni, uciphise umculo, noma uyophuza nabangani.
Amaqhinga okugwema angasebenzela abanye abantu futhi ukuhlala umatasa kungaba yisiphazamiso esikhulu, njengoba kushiwo ngaphambili kule ndatshana. Kodwa-ke, abanye bethu badinga ukuhlala ngokugcwele nemicabango yethu ngaphambi kokuthi siqhubekele phambili sisuka kubo.
Qiniseka ukuthi unohlelo lokusekelwa oluqinile olukuzungezile, futhi zivumele ukuhlola umcabango ozama ukuwugwema. Lokhu kuzika kokujula okukodwa kuzokusiza ekuhambeni kwesikhathi, futhi kuzokwenza kube lula ukuyeka ukucabanga ngakho.
Vumela ukhale futhi ugoqe, uzizwe imizwa yakho, futhi wazi ukuthi kwenzekani engqondweni yakho.
Ukuba nalesi sikhathi kungakulethela uhlobo lokuvalwa, okuzokwenza ekugcineni kube lula ukuyeka ukucabanga ngodaba oluphelele.
12. Funa usizo lochwepheshe.
Uma ulwela ukuyeka ukucabanga ngokuthile (noma ngabe kukubi noma kuyajabulisa) futhi sekuqala ukuthinta impilo yakho noma inhlalakahle yakho, kungakuhle ukhulume nomuntu ongasiza ngempela.
umthemba kanjani umuntu othandana naye
Ukufuna usizo lochwepheshe kuzokuvumela ukuthi uthole izindlela zokunqoba izindlela zokucabanga ezingalawuleki. Bazokwazi ukunikela ngeziphakamiso zokuthi ungawunqamula kanjani umjikelezo wakho wokucabanga, njenge-CBT - noma iTherapy Behavioural Therapy.
Lokhu kungakusiza ukuthi wakhe amaphethini noma imikhuba enempilo ekugcineni ezokusiza uyeke ukucabanga ngento ekuthintayo.
Uma ucabanga ukuthi ungasebenzisa usizo oluthile lochwepheshe, chofoza lapha ukuthola umeluleki oseduze nawe, noma ongasebenza nawe ku-inthanethi kusuka enduduzo yekhaya lakho.
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Siphakamisa ukuthi uzame amaqhinga ambalwa ahlukile ukuze ubone ukuthi yini okukusebenzela kangcono. Khumbula ukuthi ngeke kuguquke ngobusuku obubodwa, nokuthi ukuzibheka thina nezingqondo zethu ukuzibophezela kwesikhathi eside.
Qala namuhla ngokusebenzisa imikhuba ethile enempilo, uzizungeze nabathandekayo bakho, futhi ubheke usizo oluthile lochwepheshe uma izinto zizwakala zingalawuleki.
Ngabe awunaso isiqiniseko sokuthi ungayeka kanjani ukucabanga ngokuthile? Khuluma nomeluleki namuhla ongakwazi ukukuhambisa kule nqubo. Mane uchofoze lapha ukuxhumana nenye.
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