Ubudlelwano nama-narcissists buyinkimbinkimbi, buyinqaba, futhi bunobuthi.
Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi asikho isibopho 'esijwayelekile', kepha esisodwa esisekelwe ekuhlukumezeni (imvelaphi yaso, ezimweni eziningi, ifaka okuhlangenwe nakho okuhlukumezayo kobuntwana ngomzali oyedwa noma bobabili kanye / noma nabanakekeli) okunzima ukukuqaphela nokwelapha.
Okusho ukuthi, isisulu sizokhetha ngokungazi umaqondana oqagela umama / ubaba wakhe. Bafuna uthando olungenamibandela olunganikwanga ngesikhathi sobuntwana.
Kepha, nge-narcissist, kusobala ukuthi lolu thando ngeke lunikezwe.
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Ngokuphambene nalokho, isisulu sizobhekana nokuphindwa kokuhlukunyezwa / ukuphathwa kabi okwenzeka kubo ebuntwaneni.
Indaba izophindeka kaninginingi, ubudlelwane emva kobudlelwano, kuze kube yilapho isisulu siqala ohambweni luka ukululama futhi ukuphilisa .
AbakwaNarcissist bazama ukwenza izisulu zabo zizizwe ngendlela ethile ukuze zihlale zodwa futhi zingazivikele.
I-narcissist izovusa le mizwa kusisulu, iyenze ibe ngaphakathi komqondo wesisulu.
Ngaphambi kokuba kwenzeke noma yikuphi ukwelashwa, isisulu kufanele sazi ukuthi le mizwa akuyona eyaso. Kumele bababone lokho abayikho - amaketanga azungezwe amaqakala nemigoqo efasiteleni lengqondo yabo okuyingxenye yejele eliyinkimbinkimbi.
Eminye yemizwa enamandla kakhulu ibandakanya:
Amahloni
Ngaphakathi, ama-narcissist azizwa enamahloni kakhulu. Ngaphansi kwesithombe sokuphakama futhi ubukhulu kukhona 'umuntu ompofu' okhalayo.
Bavezela le mizwa yehlazo nokungazethembi kwabanye ukuze babhekane nayo.
Ngokukhethekile, umuntu oyedwa ukhethwa ukumela lelo hlazo. Imvamisa kungumuntu osondelene narcissist futhi osesimweni sokuncika ngokuphelele, noma ngabe lokhu kungokoqobo, njengasendodaneni noma endodakazini, noma nje obonwa kanjalo isisulu, njengomlingani, isisebenzi, noma umngane .
Uzokwethula leli hlazo ngezitatimende ezidlulisa umyalezo wokuthi umuntu ohlosiwe akwanele, akanaphutha futhi akalufanele uthando.
Icala
AbakwaNarcissist bangabaxhaphazi abahle kakhulu futhi bazozama ukwenza izisulu zabo zizizwe zinecala ukuze bazilawule futhi babe namandla ebudlelwaneni.
Umyalezo odluliswayo ngukuthi isisulu sifanelwe okuthile okubi okumehlelayo, ukuthi ukweleta okuningi kumuntu osebenzisa izihibe, noma ukuthi indlela aziphatha ngayo 'izophoqelela' lo nississ ukuba awajezise.
Ngokwenza kubonakale sengathi iphutha likulowo ohlukunyezwayo, umthengisi wezidakamizwa uvimbela ukuziphatha kwabo ekuhlolweni okukhulu.
Ukuzinyeza
AbakwaNarcissists bafana nezingane ezonakele ezifuna konke kuhambe ngendlela yazo. Lapho isisulu sizama ukunikeza umbono, siveze umbono waso, noma singavumelani, umbulali wezinwele uzohlakulela umuzwa wokungabaza kuzo, ukuze zingathembeli ekuboneni nasezinkolelweni zazo.
Ukufeza lokhu, umbalisi uzosebenzisa amathuluzi afana ne ukukhanyisa igesi , ukuhlukunyezwa ngamazwi / ngokomzwelo, ukuphathwa buthule , negama lesaladi.
Ukuthembela
AbakwaNarcissist bangabantu abathembele kakhulu, abadinga ukondla ngokuhlinzekwa kwe-narcissistic okunikezwa abanye.
Ngakho-ke, bakha inganekwane lapho isisulu sibadinga, lapho, empeleni, umuntu othembele kakhulu kuye kungumqaphi.
Imisho efana nokuthi 'awulutho ngaphandle kwami,' 'ubani ongakuthanda uma kungesimina?' noma 'ubuyaphi uma sihlukana?' zenzelwe ukwakha imizwa ye- ukuxhomekeka .
Ungahle uthande (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):
- Indlela Yedwala Elimpunga Yokusebenzelana Nombhali We-Narcissist Lapho kungekho Oxhumana Naye Akuyona Inketho
- Ungabhekana Kanjani Ne-Narcissist: Ukuphela Kwendlela Okuqinisekisiwe Ukusebenza
- Ungayilimaza Kanjani I-Narcissist Njengokuthi Ikulimaza
- Amaski Ayisithupha E-Narcissist (Nokuthi Ungawabeka Kanjani)
- Uthando Lokuqhuma Amabhomu: Isibonakaliso Sesexwayiso Sokuqala sokuthi Uthandana Nomuntu OyiNarcissist
- Izindlela Zokubhekana Nesimo Lapho Ushiya Umlingani We-Narcissistic Ngemuva
Intukuthelo
Ngama-narcissists, ubudlelwano bususelwa ekulawuleni nasekuhambiseni / ekubuseni.
Bahlala njalo bebheka ukusabela okungokomzwelo komunye umuntu ukuze baqiniseke ukuthi bazi ukuthi yiziphi “izinkinobho” okufanele bazicindezele. Ngale ndlela bangathola impendulo ngokuthanda kwabo ukugcina omunye umuntu enyaweni yangemuva.
Futhi banentukuthelo / ulaka oluningi olungaxazululeki abazoluphonsa kulowo ohlukunyezwayo ukuze bazikhulule futhi bakwazi ukuqhubeka nokulawula ubudlelwano.
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Ukuphelela
AbakwaNarcissists abaphelelisi abangenelisi, abanganeliseki ngalutho. Bantula uzwelo nokwamukelwa kwabo kanye nomhlaba njengoba unjalo.
Ekuphishekeleni kwabo inganekwane yokupheleliswa, bazokonakalisa futhi bagxeke kakhulu konke okubazungezile, ikakhulukazi isisulu.
Isisulu, baze baqale ukuqonda ukuthi kwenzekani ngempela, bazozama ukufeza lokho kuphelela, ekugcineni, bathandwe yi-narcissist.
Ukuzenyeza
I-narcissist's ego ibenza bafune ukulawula okuphelele ebudlelwaneni babo. Enye indlela yokufeza lokhu kulawula ukwehlisa ukuzethemba kwesisulu ukuze sithobeke, sizithobe futhi silalele.
Lokhu kudala isimo sokuhlanya lapho i-narcissist iyinkosi futhi isisulu isigqila (ngokwezimali, ngokusebenza, nangokomzwelo).
Isisulu empeleni siyisigqila sazo zonke izinhloso kuze kube yilapho bebiza amandla nesibindi sokuphula lesi sibopho esinobuthi.
Umuzwa wokuthi 'Kukhona Okungalungile'
AbakwaNarcissist abanalo uzwela nakancane futhi bazondla ngokuzidela kwabo ngokuhlukumeza abantu abanabo, ikakhulukazi umuntu asebudlelwaneni naye.
Ngemuva kokuchayeka isikhathi eside ekwelashweni kwabo, isisulu sizizwa sidabukile, sinesizungu, futhi asisenathemba ngaphandle kokwazi njalo ukukhomba ukuthi konakelephi.
Kuzwakala sengathi kunesikhala ngaphakathi esingenaso isixazululo, okungenakwenzeka ukuthi silulame, futhi kwenze isisulu sibe nomuzwa wokuthi “kukhona okuvaliwe.”
Lapho ezama ukudlulisa lokhu, impendulo yombhali ithi uma kukhona okungahambi kahle, kunjalo, isisulu.
Ukuphelelwa yithemba
Ukuba sebudlelwaneni nomuntu osebenzisa i-narcissist kuyinto enobuthi kakhulu. Kuqhathaniswa, ngochwepheshe abathile bokuhlukumezeka, nokuthi usempini noma eqenjini elithile.
Kunezinga lokugeza ubuchopho elenzekayo elenza ukuthi isisulu sizizwe singenamsebenzi futhi singenathemba ukuze sihlale nomuntu osebenzisa izinto zobuthongo.
Ukugqashula kwesibopho kunzima kakhulu, ngoba kuvame ukuxhumaniswa nezinkinga zobuntwana. Kuyafaneleka, noma kunjalo, ngoba kubuyisa okuthile okubalulekile kulowo ohlukunyeziwe: ithemba empilweni.
Ukwazi izinhlobo zemizwa i-narcissist ezozama ukuyikhiqiza kuzisulu zayo kuyasiza ekuboneni lapho uzibandakanya kakhulu nomunye.
Uma uzibona uhlangabezana nanoma iyiphi yale mizwa kaningi noma ngamandla amakhulu kunangaphambili (ngemuva kwakho konke, sonke sizwa eminye yale mizwa ngezikhathi ezithile), ungahle uthande ukubuza ukuthi ivelaphi.
Uma umuntu omusha engenile empilweni yakho - ikakhulukazi esimweni sozakwethu omusha othandana naye - ungahle uthande ukunyathela ngokucophelela futhi ubheke ezinye izimpawu zokuthi kungenzeka abe yi-narcissist, noma ngabe kubi , isembozo , noma ngokulinganisela .
Uma ucabanga ukuthi ungahle ubandakanyeke kumuntu osebenzisa izihibe, indlela engcono yokubalekela imikhuba yabo ukubanqamula ngokuphelele futhi ungaxhumani nabo.
