Buza abantu abayi-100 emgwaqweni ukuthi iyini i-psychology futhi uzothola izimpendulo eziyi-100 ezehlukene.
Abanye bangathi imayelana izingqondo zokufunda nokuzama ukuthola izimfihlo zabantu. Abanye bazocabanga ukuthi kufaka phakathi ukuthola ukuthi kungani abantu beziphatha ngendlela abaziphatha ngayo.
Kepha empeleni kuyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu kunalokho abantu abaningi abakucabangayo. I-Psychology yisayensi futhi kunendlela ethe xaxa kunokuqagela ukuthi ziyini izinhloso zabantu ezingezansi!
Kunemigomo emine eyisisekelo yokusebenza kwengqondo ebeka inhloso nezinhloso zayo. Sizobheka ukuthi yiziphi lezi nokuthi ungazisebenzisa kanjani empilweni yakho, kepha uzuze kuzo…
Yini Imigomo?
Ngakho-ke, ziyini lezi zinhloso ezine zesayensi yokusebenza kwengqondo? Kalula nje: to chaza, chaza, ubikezele, futhi ulawule.
ibhande le-wwe lithengiswa eshibhile
Umsindo uqonde ngqo?
Kunokujula okuningi kakhulu kwale miqondo kunalokho ongakucabanga, futhi kunezindlela ezithile ezilula kakhulu zokuzigenca futhi uzisebenzise empilweni yakho.
Ake sibabheke ngamunye ngamunye.
Chaza
Ukuchaza izinto kuyinto esiyenzayo sonke usuku ngalunye, kepha kwisayikholoji, kwehluke kancane.
Izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo zisebenza ukuchaza indlela yokuziphatha kwabantu ngabanye, kanye nama-subsets namaqembu abantu, njengoba kuchazwe yizinto ezahlukahlukene.
Ngokuchaza okwenzekayo, sinokuqonda okukhulu futhi kulula futhi kufinyeleleka kalula ekukuhlaziyeni.
Kuzwakala kukuhle kuze kube manje, akunjalo?
Ngokuchaza izinto ezenzeka empilweni yakho, ungaqala ukuzenza zinengqondo.
Emhlabeni wezengqondo, lokhu kungazungeza ngezikhathi zokwelulekwa kanye nemicabango nokuziphatha komuntu.
Ungasebenzisa le nqubo efanayo ukubhala imicabango nemizwa yakho ngenkathi unweba ububanzi ukufaka nobudlelwano bakho, imigomo yomuntu siqu nentuthuko, nazo zonke izici zempilo yakho.
Lokhu kungabandakanya ukwenza uhlu, amabalazwe engqondo, ukugcina incwadi , noma ukurekhoda imicabango yakho ku-Dictaphone noma kwenye idivayisi.
Uma uchaza okuthile, kubalulekile ukungena emininingwaneni futhi ube yimbudumbudu ngangokunokwenzeka. Ngakho-ke kunokuba usebenzise igama elilodwa ukusho ukuthi uzizwa kanjani noma ukuthi ucabangani, lihlukanise nakakhulu.
Nasi isibonelo:
Uzizwa ukhathazekile ngokuhlolwa kochwepheshe okuzayo. Ukukhathazeka kwakho kubangelwa ezinye izinto eziningi.
rey mysterio ngaphandle kokuvala imaskiUkwesaba akungabazeki ukuthi kudlala indima enkulu. I- ukwesaba okungaziwa walokho ukuhlolwa okuzokubandakanya ngqo. Ukwesaba ukwehluleka . Ukwesaba amahloni namahloni kufanele wehluleke.
Ukukhathazeka ngokungangabazeki kuzoba nezimpawu ezithile zomzimba nakho. Inhliziyo yakho ingahle igijime. Ungajuluka ngaphezu kokujwayelekile. Isisu sakho singaba ngamafindo futhi ungahle udinge ukuya endlini yangasese kaningi.
Ungase futhi uhlangane nesifiso sokubaleka futhi ugweme ukuhlolwa ngokuphelele.
Kodwa akudingeki ume emicabangweni yakho noma ekuziphatheni kwakho. Impilo yakho, ngokwengxenye, isuselwe ebudlelwaneni obakha nabanye. Ungasebenzisa izinhloso ezi-4 zengqondo ukukusiza uthuthukise lobo budlelwano.
Kule njongo yokuqala, ungachaza ukuthi uzakwethu, umngani, osebenza naye, noma ilungu lomndeni liziphatha kanjani, nokuthi ukuziphatha kwabo kushintshe kanjani. Ungakhuluma nabo futhi ukuze uthole umbono wokuthi bazizwa kanjani.
Kepha, khumbula, imininingwane eminingi ongayifaka encazelweni yakho, kuzosiza ngokwengeziwe phakathi kwesinyathelo esilandelayo…
Chaza
Ngokwazi okwenzekayo, usendaweni engcono kakhulu ukukuchaza.
Ku-psychology ejwayelekile, lokhu kungazungeza imiphumela yokuhlolwa nobufakazi obuqinile. Ngemuva kokuchaza ukuziphatha kwesiguli, isibonelo, abeluleki bangafuna izindlela zokukuchaza. Lokhu kungasho ukwenza izivivinyo ezithile, ezengqondo noma ezomzimba, nokuthola imiphumela enikeza incazelo.
Kungasho futhi nokujula ngemininingwane yekhwalithi, njengokuhlola okuningi kobuntwana bomuntu ukuze achaze izingqinamba zakhe zamanje.
Impela, kuzwakala kahle kufihliwe, kepha lolu hlobo locwaningo lomuntu olunzulu lungaholela ezinchazweni eziningi ezingaba khona ngokuziphatha komuntu.
Amanothi kaTho owenzele umgomo Chaza ayisihluthulelo ekuchazeni isimilo, kungaba kuwe noma kwabanye.
Isici esiyinhloko salo mgomo ukubuza imibuzo ‘kungani?’ Bese uqhamuka nezimpendulo ezinengqondo.
Kungani uzizwa ngendlela ozizwa ngayo. Kungani umuntu aziphatha ngendlela ethile?
engisebenza naye wesilisa udlala ngothando nami
Ake sibuyele kusibonelo sokukhathazeka kusuka kumgomo wokuchaza.
Ukwesaba kwakho okuzungeze isivivinyo kungenzeka kube nezimpande zakho kokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho kwangaphambilini. Ingabe uhlulekile ukuhlolwa - ngisho nalokhu kuhlolwa - ngaphambilini?
Ngabe ontanga yakho, abazali, noma umphathi wakho bazwakalise ukudumala kwabo noma bakudelela lapho wehluleka?
Ingabe uyasaba isici esingaziwa sesivivinyo ngoba awuzange ulungiselele kahle njengoba kungenzeka?
Ngabe ujwayele ukuzizwa ungumkhohlisi okuyiphutha elilodwa kuphela kude nokutholwa ngumhlaba?
Ingabe ukubalekela izinkinga zakho indlela yokubhekana oyisebenzisayo kwezinye izingxenye zempilo yakho? Uyazigwema izingxoxo ezinzima nabanye? Ingabe uqeda ubudlelwano ngokushesha nje lapho noma yini iqala ukungahambi kahle?
Yini enye okungenzeka ukuthi uzizwa ukhathazekile ngokuhlolwa? Ngabe izwakala njengenguquko enkulu empilweni yakho ezoba nomthelela omkhulu ekusaseni lakho? Ingabe kukhona imiphumela yokwehluleka okuzoba nzima ukubhekana nayo?
Noma uma ubheka omunye umuntu, cabanga ngalokho okuthinta izenzo nemicabango yabo. Ngabe ukuziphatha kwabo kushintshile muva nje? Ngabe sebenomkhuba omusha (omubi noma omuhle)? Ngabe kunjalo imizwa engaphezulu kwesikhathi ?
Ngokuya ngalokho okubonile namanothi okungenzeka uwathathile, buza ukuthi kungani lezi zinto zenzeka. Yini okungenzeka yenzekile ukusunduza imicabango yabo, imizwa yabo, kanye nokuziphatha kwabo ohlangothini oluthile?
Ngabe kunjalo ukudabuka ngokulahlekelwa ? Ngabe bahlukana nomlingani wabo? Ngabe bona bathole isivivinyo abasakhathazekile ngaso?
Lokhu kungasiza kakhulu ezimeni eziningi zangempela, kusuka kubungani nakubudlelwano nezinkinga zomsebenzi. Imvamisa ungathola izincazelo zezenzo zomuntu nokuphendula kwakhe uma ubeka ingqondo yakho kukho!
Bheka izizathu zokuziphatha futhi uzokwazi ukuthola amaphethini, okusho ukuthi ungaqala ukuwabikezela…
Ungahle uthande (i-athikili iyaqhubeka ngezansi):
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- I-Psychology Of Projection: Imizwa eyi-8 Sidlulisela Kwabanye
- Amaqiniso ayi-15 Ama-Psychology Amangalisayo Wonke Umuntu Okufanele Awazi
Ukubikezela
Izibikezelo zivame ukususelwa ebufakazini obunzima, kepha, emhlabeni wezengqondo, zingasuselwa kudatha yekhwalithi ephezulu.
Ungahle ungenzi isivivinyo ukuthola ukuthi ubudlelwano bomuntu nomama wakhe buyobuthinta kanjani ubudlelwano babo obuseduze besikhathi esizayo, kepha ungahlaziya umqondo womuntu bese wenza isiphetho.
Ekuzihlaziyeni kwakho, ungakwazi ukusebenzisa amanothi avela ezinhlosweni ezimbili zokuqala ukubikezela ukuthi ungazizwa noma uziphathe kanjani ngendlela ethile, futhi ngani.
Esibonelweni sethu, uzokwazi ukubikezela kusengaphambili ukuthi uzokhathazeka kangakanani ngokuhlolwa. Kumongo obanzi wempilo yakho, ungathola ukuthi ungazikhomba izinto kubangela impendulo ethile engokomzwelo noma engokomzimba .
Mhlawumbe wena uzizwe ukukhathazeka kobudlelwano uma usufinyelele iphuzu lezinyanga eziyisithupha nomlingani wakho omusha. Ungabona ukuthi ukuhlangana nomngane othile kukwenza ucasuke. Noma mhlawumbe ubhaxabela abanye lapho uke waqwasha ukulala kabi.
Vele, ungakwazi futhi ukubikezela ukusebenza kwabanye ngokususelwe kulokho okubonile kanye nokukuhlaziya kwakho.
Ungahle ukwazi ukuchaza ukuthi umlingani wakho uthini iba nomona uma wenza okuthile, uzokwazi ukukuchaza (uthumela umlayezo i-ex, isibonelo!) futhi ungaqagela ukuthi bazophatheka kabi uma uphinda futhi.
Noma, ngenothi elihle ngokwengeziwe, ungachaza futhi uchaze ukuthi umuntu othile kumnandi kakhulu ukuba eduze kwakhe futhi abikezele ukuthi lo moya omuhle ungabuya nini.
Lezi yizibonelo eziyisisekelo, kepha zikhombisa ukuthi ungazisebenzisa kanjani lezi zimiso.
kungani ngifuna ukuba ngedwa ngaso sonke isikhathi
Lokhu kusebenza ngokujwayelekile, ngakho-ke ungacabanga ukuthi ungakusebenzisa kanjani lokhu emsebenzini noma kobunye ubudlelwano. Ngokubikezela okuzokwenzeka uma wenza, noma wenza okuthile, ngezindlela ezithile, ungathuthukisa ubudlelwane bakho.
Okusiletha emgomweni wokugcina wezengqondo…
Ukulawula
Ukulawula kuyinto iningi lethu elilwela ukuyenza, futhi kungaba induduzo enkulu. Ingxenye yesayikholoji ukufunda ukuthi ungaziguqula kanjani izimo futhi uzilawule.
Lokhu kungahle kusuka ekulawuleni ukuhlaselwa ngokwesaba ngamasu ahlukahlukene kuye ekuthonyeni indlela yokuziphatha ukukhuthaza ukuzethemba.
Ngokubheka izindlela izindlela ezithile zokuziphatha ezixhumanisa futhi zakhe amaphethini, i-psychology ithola indlela yokuguqula lezi zindlela.
Isibonelo, ukusebenzisa ukuphefumula ukuthola amandla kabusha ngesikhathi se- ukuhlaselwa ukukhathazeka , noma ukusebenzisa izindlela zokwelashwa ezahlukahlukene ukubhekana nezimo zempilo yengqondo.
Lokhu kungasetshenziswa empilweni yakho yangasese, kanye nasempilweni yobungcweti.
Okokuqala, ake sibuyele esibonelweni sethu sokukhathazeka kokuhlolwa.
Uma wesaba ukwehluleka ngaphezu kwakho konke, ungachitha amahora ngaphambi kokuhlolwa ugxile ezingxenyeni ezibaluleke kakhulu zokubuyekeza kwakho futhi uzikhumbuze ukuthi wazi kahle kangakanani konke.
Uma ukuhlolwa kungumzuzu obaluleke kakhulu empilweni yakho, ungathola izindlela zokususa ingcindezi. Mhlawumbe uyaziphinda ukuthi ungabhala isivivinyo uma uhluleka nokuthi noma yini eyenzekayo, kusasa ngolunye usuku lokulwela amaphupho akho.
Noma uma ukhathazekile ngokungafiki esivivinyweni ngesikhathi, ungenza amalungiselelo okuhamba ukuze ufike lapho ihora kusenesikhathi ukuze unciphise lezo zinkathazo.
Mhlawumbe uchaza ukungeneliseki ngomsebenzi wakho - noma ngabe ukhokha kahle - futhi uchaza lokhu njengesifiso sokuzimela nokuguquguquka okwengeziwe. Uqagela ukuthi ukuhlala kulo msebenzi kuzokugcina ungajabule.
Enye indlela yokulawula isimo kungaba ukuyeka umsebenzi bese uqala ibhizinisi lakho noma ube ngumsebenzi ozimele.
Kubudlelwano bakho, uma wazi ukuthi umuntu uzophendula kanjani futhi kungani ezimeni ezithile, ungenza eyodwa yezinto ezimbili. Okokuqala, ungagwema izimo ezidala imizwa emibi nokuziphatha lapho kungenzeka khona. Futhi, okwesibili, ungabasiza babhekane nezimo ezingenakugwenywa.
Noma uma uthola ukuthi umlingani wakho usesimweni sokuthula ngezimpelasonto, ungagcina izingxoxo ezibalulekile zalapho ukuze uzenze zibe lula ngangokunokwenzeka (nobabili).
Noma, ake ucabange ukuthi ungumphathi ofuna ukuthola okuningi eqenjini labo. Ngokubheka ukuziphatha kwelungu ngalinye leqembu kanye nendlela elihlangana ngayo, bese likuchaza lokhu, likuchaze, futhi likusebenzise lokho ukubikezela izindlela zokuziphatha zesikhathi esizayo, ungathola izindlela eziphumelelayo zokuzikhuthaza.
Ilungu ngalinye lingaphendula kahle ezintweni ezahlukahlukene futhi amanye amalungu angasebenza ngokuzwana kunamanye. Lolu wulwazi olubalulekile lokulawula isimo nokukhulisa umkhiqizo.
yini i-addison rae net ebaluleke
Kukhona umugqa omuhle, kunjalo, phakathi kokulawula abanye ukudala imiphumela emihle kakhulu kuwo wonke umuntu, nokukhohlisa abantu ukuze uzuze ngezindleko zabo. Hlala ukhumbula ukuthi izenzo zakho kufanele zibe sezenzelweni zabo bonke.
Ngakho-ke, lezo yizinsika ezine eziyinhloko zesayensi yokusebenza kwengqondo. Ngenkathi ungahle ungabi ngumeluleki noma udokotela osebenzayo, ungathatha lemiqondo futhi uyisebenzise empilweni yakho.
Ungachaza imizwa noma imicabango oyifunayo kakhulu noma ngaphansi. Ungachaza ukuthi kungani le mizwa nemicabango yenzeka. Ungaqagela ukuthi le mizwa nemicabango ingavela nini ngokuzayo.
Futhi, lapho ukuhlanganisa konke ndawonye, ungafuna ukulawula izimo ezithile ukukhulula lezo ezingezinhle noma ukuphromotha lezo ezivumayo
Khumbula, lapho ukwazi ngokwengeziwe ukungena ekujuleni nangokuthi kungani futhi unikeze imininingwane yangempela, uzobe ubekeke kangcono ekubikezeleni nasekulawuleni ikusasa lakho.
Ngokubheka kule nqubo, uzokwazi ukuthola izindlela zokwenza izinto zibe lula, futhi zibe ngcono, wena nalabo abakuzungezile.
