Sonke sisolwe ngokukhipha ukukhathazeka kwethu komunye umuntu, kepha kungenzeka ukuthi besingazi ukuthi lokhu kunesisekelo esingokwengqondo ngemuva kwakho: Ukufuduswa.
Ukufuduswa, ngokwemigomo kaFreudian, kuyinto uqulekile indlela yokuzivikela ethatha umzwelo owodwa (imvamisa ubudlova noma umuzwa othukuthele) kusuka kwesinye isimo bese usiphonsa kwesinye, ususe ukungajabuli kithi kanye nomuntu obangela ukucindezelwa kube yisihluthulelo esingasongeli kangako. Empeleni 'kungukushaya phansi' lapho sizwa ukuthi othile onegunya, amandla noma ukuma okulinganayo 'usilimazile'.
Kwenzeka lapho sazi ukuthi sifuna ukusabela, kepha, ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukahlukene, siyazi ukuthi asikwazi noma akufanele ngendlela esingathanda ngayo.
Imvamisa kuba wukudluliswa kwesenzo okuqondile, njengokumenyezelwa empikiswaneni bese uguqula lokho kuyihlazo nentukuthelo kube ukumemeza ingane yakho eyenzeke ngokuzula ngombuzo.
Kepha futhi kungathatha isimo sento engahlobene ngokuphelele.
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Isibonelo 1: Ukudluliswa okungahlobene
Usekolishi, futhi kunokuba unikele isikhathi esithe xaxa ekutadisheni, ukhetha ukuya emaphathini nabangane. Ezinsukwini ezimbalwa kamuva, wenza kabi esivivinyweni esibalulekile, kepha kunokuba uvume ukuthi kungenxa yokuthi ubungazilungiselele ngokwanele (noma usole abangane bakho), unquma ukuthi uprofesa ubuze imibuzo engacacile. Awukwazi ukubhekana noprofesa ngalokhu ungakwazi, kodwa-ke, ukusebenzela izithukuthuku ezingathi sína zokulawula izikhwama zokubhoboza izikhwama zokuzivocavoca zasekhempini noma eqenjini lakho elidlala ama-drum solos asendle okungenzeka ukuthi, acasule labo abalalele.
Ukufuduswa kukwazisa ukuphepha komuntu kunengozi. Kungaba yingozi ekukholiseni umuntu lowo zinhloso (ngisho nezinhloso zamane ephila usuku nosuku ) ekugcineni zingamanga, futhi zixhumene kakhulu ukwesaba ukwaliwa , sabelana ngeziningi zalezo zimfanelo eziyingozi zokwesaba: ukwesaba impumelelo, ukungagculiseki ngempilo, ukungakwazi ukuzibophezela, isidingo esinehaba seziphazamiso.
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Isibonelo 2: Ukudluliswa okuqondile
Uhlele isonto lonke ukuhlanza igalaji ngosizo lomlingani wakho. Impelasonto iza futhi umlingani wakho, ngenxa yezizathu ezizwakalayo, ubizelwa ukuzosebenza. Ngeke ubasole ngezinto ezingalawulwa yibo, futhi ngokuqinisekile awufuni ukudala idrama engafanele futhi engahlala isikhathi eside ebudlelwaneni obungaphezu kwabo, kepha ubufuna ukwenza lokhu iminyaka eminingi.
Ubambelela ekukhungathekeni kwakho kuze kube uMsombuluko ekuseni, lapho ungaba namahlwathi amafushane futhi ube mubi nabantu osebenza nabo ngaphandle kokulimaza unomphela. Ukhuthazelwa ukwazi ukuthi 'wonke umuntu uvunyelwe ukuba semoyeni ngezikhathi ezithile.'
Isibonelo 3: Ukuphikwa Endaweni
Ukufuduka kungaba kakhulu nolaka ekuvezeni kwayo, uhlobo lwe 'Bengingakufuni lokho vele' ukusabela. Kwenzeka kakhulu ezindabeni zenhliziyo. Lapho othandekayo enqaba intuthuko esondelene kakhulu, imvamisa impendulo yethu yokuqala iyini? Besingafuni ngempela, besikwenzela bona kuphela . An i-monologue yangaphakathi kuthatha ukuvikela ama-egos wethu, ukusitshela ukuthi yini ebesiyifuna kungenye into ngokuphelele.
Ukususwa kungathinta nezinhloso zethu zomsebenzi. Kwesinye isikhathi, umuntu osilimaza kakhulu yithina uqobo, futhi ingqondo iyashesha ukususa imizwa yokwesaba, ukwenqatshwa, noma ngabe sizimisele ukuphuma ezindaweni zethu zokunethezeka, ngemicabango yokungasifuni ngempela isikhundla esingasithanda. usebenze kanzima ngakho, kepha esikhundleni salokho omunye onobungozi obuncane.
Isibonelo 4: Inkohliso engenacala
Uma umuntu ezwa sengathi umlingani wakhe ubeka phambili umsebenzi phezu kwabo, lowo muntu angahle adlale ngothando nomuntu amjwayele ukuze athole ukunakwa okuthile. Noma ngabe ukujola kungadluli, lokhu kuyindlela yokuhamba esikhundleni sokujezisa umlingani ngqo, umuntu uzikhokhela 'ukuziphindiselela' ngaphandle kokwazi komlingani ngokuthola okuqondiwe okuhlukile, ukuthola ukunakwa okufunwayo, nokumemezela ukuthi akukho okubi esenzweni .
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Isibonelo sesi-5: Ukudilizwa ngolaka
Indoda engakwazi ukuthatha u 'cha' endaweni yokucima ukoma futhi iba nomsindo lapho ivala. Ingane ihlale ikhetha izimpi ngaphandle kwesizathu esizwakalayo. Owesifazane othethisa indodakazi yakhe ngokwenza iphutha elincane. Laba ngabantu abangakwazi ukufaka phansi ukufudukela kwabo kunoma yini enye ngaphandle ukuqhuma ngodlame . Labo abasebenza ngaphansi kwamazinga aphakeme ngokungajwayelekile wokufuduka okuvikelayo (imvamisa labo abangavuthiwe, abazama ukuqinisa ukuzethemba okuphansi, noma abanakho imizwa yelungelo ) thola udlame olungokomzwelo nolungokomzimba ukukhishwa kwabo okuyinhloko.
Ukufuduka okunolaka kudiliza izinhloso zobudlelwano, izinhloso zomsebenzi, impilo yasekhaya - ngokoqobo zonke izici zalokho umuntu akubheka njengokuphakathi kokufuna injabulo.
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Isibonelo 6: Ukufuduswa Okuhle
Yize intukuthelo nobutha kuyizimpawu, ukufuduka kwabantu kungathatha nezindawo zokuzuzisa nakho.
Owesifazane akakwazi ukwenza umndeni wakhe umlalele kunalokho uziphonsa ebuciko bakhe, ekugcineni enze izingcezu ezinhle ezikhazimulisa udumo.
Umuntu okholwayo uhambisa ukuthambekela kwabo kwenkanuko endaweni yenjabulo yokupheka.
Indoda eyeke izifiso zayo zemidlalo ngenxa kababa ophethe ngokweqile unikeza isibonelelo eqenjini lomphakathi ukulungisa kabusha indawo yokudlala.
Isibonelo sesi-7: Ukuhanjiswa njengokwelashwa kwengqondo
Lapho othile esiphatha kabi, sifuna ukugqabhuka. Lokho kuyingxenye yobuchopho bethu besibankwa. Siyazi futhi, noma kunjalo, ukuthi amandla amakhulu okuhlangana kanye nemihlangano yomphakathi ingaba kanjani. Ukufuduswa kusigcina ekulimaleni izinkulungwane zamaphunga esiqukethe sonke.
Kodwa-ke, uma sikwazi ukubuka izimo zethu zokufuduka zisebenza, sivula izingxenye ze-ejensi yethu yangaphakathi ezindleleni ezimangalisayo zokucaca.
Isibonelo, uma sazi ukuthi sigudluzela ukukhathazeka kwethu ngempilo jikelele kuye wonke umuntu, kungenzeka sishintshele ngakuye ukuba nozwela ngokwengeziwe kwabanye kunokusola.
Ukufuduswa kungaba yindlela esebenzayo yokukhipha amandla ngokuphepha nangokuzuzisayo.
yiziphi izihloko ezithokozisayo ongakhuluma ngazo
Ngisho namaphupho ethu, okungathathwa njengokufuduka kwethu okungazi kakhulu, angabona ngcono. Asikho nakancane isidingo sokubona ukufuduka njengendlela embi, efihliwe ecekela phansi izifiso zethu ezinzima kakhulu. Ukukwazi kancane esikwenzayo nokuthi kungani sikwenza kuyindlela enqobayo ebheke empilweni ejabulisa kakhulu nexhumana nabantu.
