Uma kukhulunywa ngokuhlola izikhathi zokuphila nezimbi, ikakhulukazi lezo zingcindezi, ngithola ukuthi lesisho esivela kuVivian Komori silusizo kakhulu:
Impilo ayikona ukuthi ugijima kangakanani noma ukuthi ukhuphuka kangakanani, kepha ukuthi ushaya kahle kangakanani.
Njengoba impilo ingavamile ukuhamba ngomkhumbi, ukukwazi ukubuyela emuva ngemuva kwezingqinamba kuyikhono elibalulekile.
Ubuwazi ukuthi abagijimi abasezingeni eliphakeme bahlulela izinga labo lokuqina hhayi kakhulu empumelelweni yabo yangempela njengesikhathi sabo sokululama?
Kubonakala kimi ukuthi kufanele sizibheke ngendlela efanayo…
… Kufanele sihlole 'isikhathi sethu sokutakula' ngemuva kokuthi sishaye olunye lwalezozindonga zezitini ezingokomfanekiso olusishiya sizizwe sidangele.
Isikhathi esiningi sinamandla nokuzimisela ukubuyela ehhashi siqhubeke lapho sigcine khona.
Kwesinye isikhathi, noma kunjalo, ukuhlangabezana nalezi zingqinamba akuholeli ekuqhumeni okwesikhashana ngemuva kwalokho ongazikhethela, uthule uthuli, uphinde uqale phansi futhi.
Esikhundleni salokho, kukushaya nge-wallop yangempela, kukushiye uzizwe udangele, udangele, ucindezelekile, futhi uhlulwe ngokuphelele, ungaqiniseki ngokuhamba kwakho okulandelayo okufanele kube khona.
Ukubeka indlela yakho emuva kubukeka kunzima kakhulu.
Ukhungathekile.
Ukubuyela emuva kuzizwa kungenzeki.
Kufana nomdlalo webhodi okungenzeka ukuthi wawudlala useyingane, Izinyoka Namakhadi…
izitayela ze-aj izitayela ezi-5 zezinkanyezi
Wenza inqubekela phambili engaguquki ebhodini ngemilenze embalwa kusuka ezitebhisini eziwusizo uze ube neshwa ngokwanele lokuhlangabezana nenyoka bese uzithola ushibilika ubuyela emuva.
Kakhulu, izingqinamba (izinyoka) zifushane (zifushane).
Ungazibuyisela emgqeni kalula ngokwanele futhi mhlawumbe uze uqhubeke nokuwina, uzizwe ungumbombayi wokuthi unqobile izilingo osendleleni.
Kepha kwesinye isikhathi, lapho uzwa iphunga lokunqoba, unebhadi ngokwanele lokuhlala enyokeni ende ezokubuyisela lapho uqale khona.
Isikwele esiphumelelayo bese sibonakala sisekude kakhulu futhi ukwehlulwa kubonakala kungenakugwemeka.
Kulula-ke ukuvele udele bese uyadada uphume emdlalweni ngokuphelele.
Ngiphezulu kwekhanda lami, angikwazi ukucabanga ngomdlalo okhuthaza kangcono isipiliyoni sempilo yangempela!
Inkinga ukuthi impilo akuwona umdlalo futhi, empeleni, ukunikela kulezi zimpendulo ezingezinhle ekubuyiseleni emuva kungalimaza kakhulu futhi kulimaze kakhulu.
Ngakho-ke, yini ongayenza uma uzithola ukhungathekile ngale mizwa?
Isixazululo silele ekugxileni kokuhle nokushintsha umbono wakho ukuze ubuke ukubuyela emuva ngakunye njengethuba lokufunda.
Ngaleyo ndlela, lapho ubhekene nezithiyo ezingenakugwemeka, uzokwazi kangcono ukuqhubeka nokugingqa idayisi bese udlala umdlalo ngaphandle kokunikezela ekudumazekeni nokwehlulwa.
Ekugcineni, uzoba ngumuntu onamandla futhi okwazi kangcono ukubhekana nokwenyuka kwempilo.
Ake sibheke amanye amasu ongawasebenzisa ukukusiza ukusetha kabusha ikhampasi yakho.
1. Yazi ukuthi ukwehluleka kuyingxenye yenqubekela phambili.
Ngakho-ke, kukhona okungahambanga ngendlela yakho futhi manje uzizwa ushayekile futhi ulimele ngokwengqondo.
Udinga ukushintsha umqondo wakho ususe noma imuphi umuzwa wokwehluleka futhi esikhundleni salokho wamukele okufundile ephutheni.
Zikhumbuze - njalo - ukuthi akukho lutho olubalulekile olwake lwazuzwa ngaphandle kweziqalo nezithiyo eziningi zamanga.
Konke kuyingxenye yenqubo yentuthuko ekugcineni okuholela kokuthile okunenjongo.
Udinga ukubona ukuthi kungcono kakhulu ukwenza okuthile ngaphansi ngokuphelele kunokwenza lutho ngokuphelele.
Yebo, uma ushaye iqhubu emgwaqeni kuzolimala isikhashana - leyo yingxenye yenqubo engaba yinde futhi enamadwala ekugcineni ephela ngempumelelo.
UTruman Capote ukufingqe lokhu kangcono kakhulu kunalokho engake ngakwenza lapho ethi:
Ukwehluleka yisinongo esinika impumelelo ukunambitheka kwaso.
kuthiwani uma engafoni
Ngiyazi kuzwakala njenge-oxymoronic, kepha uma ungakwazi ukwamukela ngempumelelo isimo esihle sokwehluleka, vumela ukuthi ikushukumise , nokuthi ungadangali noma wehlulwe yiyo, usendleleni eya empumelelweni.
2. Gxila esinyathelweni esilandelayo, hhayi lapho uya khona.
Kwesinye isikhathi sibhekene nezinselelo ezibonakala zingaphezu kwamandla ethu.
Sibheka umgomo noma iphupho futhi sikuthola kunzima ukuzicabanga sikufinyelela ngoba kubonakala kukude kakhulu.
Ukugwema ukudikibala, zama ukungacabangi ngendawo ofuna ukuyifinyelela kanye nomzamo odingekayo ukuze ufike lapho.
Esikhundleni salokho, gxila esinyathelweni esilandelayo okufanele usithathe.
Gxila esenzweni esizokusondeza kancane kunhloso yokugcina, kepha ungakhathazeki ngokuthi kukusondeze kangakanani.
Vele ugxile ekwenzeni kahle, ngokusemandleni akho.
Inqubekela phambili ehamba kancane ohlangothini olufanele ingcono kunokungathuthuki nhlobo.
Ekugcineni, inqubekela phambili engasheshi ingaphenduka intuthuko enkulu njengoba uqala Zethembe kancane bese kufika intambo.
3. Bheka ohlangothini olukhanyayo.
Lapho uzizwa udangele, udinga ukwenza ukukhetha okuqondayo ukuze ube nethemba futhi ube nethemba.
Ukukhetha ukulungiselelwa okuzenzakalelayo ‘komhlaba wonke omelene nami’ kuzoqinisa kuphela ukuvunguza okungalungile okukho.
Kungaba nzima ukukwenza yamukele isimo sengqondo esiqondile futhi ekuqaleni kungadingeka ukuthi wenze isenzo, sengathi udlala ngawe nabanye abaseduze kwakho.
Ungase ube nomuzwa wokuthi ibinzana elithi ‘mbumbulu uze uyenze’ lisetshenziswe ngokweqile, kodwa lingasebenza ngempela.
Izame.
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi uzothola ukuthi izilungiselelo zakho ezizenzakalelayo zizoba phezulu futhi zingabi namazinyo kalula ngokudumazeka.
4. Lidedele.
Kungenzeka ukuthi uthwele intukuthelo ngenxa yamaphutha owenzile noma ukungabi nabulungisa oke wabhekana nakho.
Ukuthwala konke ukunganaki okuzungezile kuzokusinda futhi kukwenze kube nzima ukuba nethemba lapho ubhekene nezithiyo.
Kungenzeka uzizwe ukhungathekile futhi ungafaneleki.
Udinga ngempela dedela lemizwa ethukuthele uma uzowashaya amadimoni akho.
Ngokusobala ngeke zincibilike ngomlingo futhi kuzodinga umzamo kuwe ukufeza lokhu.
Indawo okufanele uqale ngayo ukwamukela intukuthelo yakho nelungelo lakho lokuba naleyo mizwa.
Yazi, noma kunjalo, ukuthi kunjalo ukuzilimaza ukugxila emizweni enjalo engemihle.
Kunamasu ambalwa ongawazama.
Ukuphefumula okujulile kungaba yindlela ephumelelayo yokulawula intukuthelo, njengoba kungathatha isikhathi ukuphuma.
Abanye abantu bayathola journaling indlela enhle yokukhipha ukukhungatheka kwabo.
Yenza okusemandleni akho ukuhambisa intukuthelo, kunokuba ungene ngaphakathi kuyo futhi shintsha ukugxila kwakho ezinhlosweni zakho esikhundleni salokho.
5. Ungaziqhathanisi nabanye.
Kungani senza lokhu?
Iningi lethu linecala lalo futhi kunabantu abambalwa abangasho ngokweqiniso ukuthi abachithi umzamo wengqondo obalulekile kulowo msebenzi ongenanjongo.
kungani ngithanda ukuba ngedwa kangaka
Ukuzilinganisa nomndeni wakho, abangane, noma osebenza nabo kungaholela entweni eyodwa: ukudikibala kanye ne-angst engenasidingo.
Khumbula ukuthi ubona kuphela ubuso bangaphandle abanye abakhetha ukububonisa umhlaba.
Awazi ukuthi yiziphi izithiyo kanye nezingqinamba abaye bakubekezelela ukuze bafinyelele lapho bekhona manje.
Futhi konke kungenzeka kungabi kamnandi njengoba kubukeka kuleyo nsimu noma kanjani.
Nguwe.
Udinga kuphela ukugxila kuma-hoops ozodinga ukungena kuwo ukuze ufinyelele izinhloso zakho futhi ube ngongcono kakhulu.
6. Fakazela ukuthi ukungabaza kwakho akulungile.
Ingabe uzizwa udangele ngenxa yokuthile okushiwo othile?
Mhlawumbe othile uye wagcona amaphupho akho noma wakutshela ukuthi awusoze waba yilutho.
Noma mhlawumbe uke uthathe amanye amazwana uqobo lwakho kunendlela obudinga ngayo futhi lokhu kulimaze ukuzethemba kwakho.
Kunoma ikuphi, uma ungaguqula umqondo wakho ususe kowakholelwa kulokho abanye abantu abakushoyo uye kokuzimisele ukubabonisa ukuthi banephutha, kungakunika amandla kanye nogqozi lokuqhubeka.
Yize kungazwakala kukuhle ukuzibeka endaweni yazo, ungakwenzi ngenxa yalesi sizathu. Zenzele.
Zibonakalise zingalungile ngokuzibonakalisa ulungile.
7. Thatha igxathu emuva ukhumbule ukuthi umhlaba awuzungezi wena.
Lokhu kulula kunalokho ongakucabanga, yize kuthatha umzamo oqondile, futhi empeleni kungenye yezikhiye eziyisisekelo zokuguqula ingqondo yakho isuke kokubi iye kokuhle.
Cishe sonke sinecala lokucabanga ukuthi siyisikhungo sendawo yonke.
Lokho kusho ukuthi singabona kuphela imicimbi ngokuzithoba, ngokubona kwethu.
Inkinga ukuthi, lapho udlala indawo yokulingisa embukisweni wakho, kulula ukuzidabukela lapho ushayele noma izinto zingakafiki ngendlela obulindele ngayo.
Iphinde ivumele lokho kungabaza okusolisayo ukuthi kufike kugcwale lapho ubona ukuthi awusona isenzo se-stellar owawucabanga phambilini.
Yini ongayenza ngalokhu?
Zama ukusetha kabusha umbono wakho wobugovu ngokucabanga ngawo ungabasiza kanjani abanye esikhundleni salokho.
Ukuthola okuthile okuhle ngabo kuzosiza ukubuyisa ukuzethemba kwakho.
Lokhu akudingeki ukuthi kube yinkulu. Ngisho nokuthinta okuncane kuzokusiza ukuthi uzizwe unethemba futhi uzoqala ukuphuma kulowo mthombo wokuphelelwa yithemba.
uyeka kanjani ukukhuluma nabantu
Lapho usuqale ukucabanga ngalokho okudingwa abanye, uphumelele ekushintsheni umbono wakho uwususe kuwe njengomlingiswa ophakathi.
Uzokuthola kuzosiza ukwehlisa umthwalo waleyo mizwa edabukisayo, ukunqotshwa nokudikibala.
8. Yeka ukukhononda - akusizi.
Lapho izinto zingahambi ngendlela yethu, kulula kakhulu ukukhononda kakhulu kunoma ngubani onendaba nokulalela.
Ingabe lokhu kuyasiza futhi kuyasithuthukisa isimo sethu sengqondo?
Cha.
Iqiniso ukuthi ukukhononda ngokuthi ukuphi manje ngeke kuze kukufikise lapho ungathanda ukuba khona.
Ngeke kukujabulise ngokwengeziwe futhi empeleni kumane kungukuchitha isikhathi namandla okungasetshenziswa kangcono kokunye okukhiqizayo kakhudlwana.
Nginesibonelo somuntu siqu sokuthi ukungakhalazi kunamandla kangakanani kungakwenza…
Ngenkathi ngihamba ngebhayisikili ngisuka eLondon ngiya eParis ngo-2012 ngenselelo yenhlangano esiza abampofu, idolo lami langakwesokudla lavumela ibursitis ebuhlungu kakhulu ngosuku lokuqala lwebhayisikili lezinsuku ezi-4.
Ngangingeyona ngisho uhhafu wendlela eya enhlosweni yami futhi ngangisenamakhilomitha amaningi ngaphambi kwami.
Ukuyeka nje kwakungeyona inketho ngakho konke lokho kuxhaswa ngemuva kwami.
Manje, angisho ukuthi bekungekho nzima ngempela ukuqhubeka nokuhambisa izinyawo naphezu kobuhlungu (ngisizwa yi-cocktail yangempela yemithi, ngiyavuma), kepha ngenzile.
Yize ukuhamba ngebhayisikili kuphela (yize kunabanye abangu-100, akekho noyedwa engangimazi) kungabonakala njengokubi lapho izinto ziba nzima kakhulu, empeleni kwenza ukuqhubeka nokutholakala kunokufinyeleleka kancane.
Kungani?
Ngoba ngangingenamuntu engangikhala ngaye.
Impela akukho ukububula okwakwenzeka, ngakho-ke ngavele ngaqhubeka nakho, ngacula ngaphuma kumculo Izingoma zeDisney ukukhuphuka amagquma (amaningi) njengoba amamayela ekhahlameza kabuhlungu kwaze kwafika isikhathi sokunqoba kwami ukuzungeza i-Eiffel Tower.
izephula mthetho zeminyaka emisha zijoyina i-dx
Ngiyazi ukuthi uma ngabe bekunomuntu obelalele usizi lwami, bengizobubula futhi ngibubule, nginikezwe ama-gremlins amabi futhi kungenzeka ukuthi ngiphonse ithawula ngokuphelele.
Kwakuyisifundo sempilo esihle (uma sibuhlungu) esingikhonze kahle kusukela lapho.
Nganikezwa nocezu oluyigugu ngomunye wothisha bami abakhuthazayo kudala.
Uthe ukubeka nje amandla amancane owachitha ekukhalazeni ekulungiseni le nkinga, kungekudala kuzoba nesixazululo.
Wayekhuluma kahle.
Isenzo sokukhononda sibukela phansi ukulingana kwakho futhi sivumela ukudangala, ukudikibala futhi ekugcineni wehlulwe ukuthatha izintambo.
Kugweme.
Uma uyeka ukukhononda futhi wenqaba ukwamukela ukuthi uyisisulu nje, kungekudala uzobona ukuthi ungamandla amakhulu angenakuvinjelwa kanjani lapho ubhekene nobunzima.
Izame!
9. Yamukela ukuthi manje kungaba yisikhathi sokwenza ushintsho.
Lapho sizigaxa echibini lokuzidabukela, sidangele impela futhi sizizwa sihluliwe, kungokwemvelo uku funa umuntu noma okuthile ongakusola .
Lapho sesikhombe umthombo wosizi lwethu, kulapho kuqala khona ukukhononda, sikhalazela ukungabi nabulungiswa noma ukulimala.
Futhi usuvele uyazi ngezingozi zokukhononda…
Okufanele ngabe sikwenza ukubheka ngaphakathi, sicabangele ukuthi sizizwa kanjani futhi sithole isu lokuthi siphendule.
Mhlawumbe udinga ukushintsha kwenhliziyo noma ushintsho embonweni wakho noma ushintsho nasendleleni ohamba ngayo ngezinto.
Kungenzeka kungabi nalutho ongalwenza ukushintsha izinto zangaphandle, kepha wena can shintsha indlela ozibuka ngayo.
Uma usushintshe umbono wakho, uzovame ukuthola ukuthi lezo zinto zangaphandle ongabanga namandla kuzo ziqala ukushintsha, nazo.
Ngemuva kwalokho ulangazelelwa isenzo sokwenza ushintsho oluhle, ushiye ukudangala nokwehluleka emuva kwakho.
Namanje awuqiniseki ukuthi ungazizwa unqotshwe kanjani futhi unikwe amandla ngokwengeziwe esikhundleni salokho? Khuluma nomqeqeshi wempilo namuhla ongakudlulisa kule nqubo. Mane uchofoze lapha ukuxhuma nenye.
Igama lokugcina ongazindla ngalo…
Ngeke unqobe ngomlingo lawo ma-gremlins amabi, Ukunqotshwa nokudikibala, kodwa ngiyethemba ukuthi ungazizwa unamandla futhi unethemba ngoba unebalazwe lomgwaqo lokuxazulula inkinga.
Awuyena umshini futhi, noma ngabe ubunjalo, ubusazodinga ukunakekelwa noma ukuqaliswa kabusha ngezikhathi ezithile.
Ungumuntu.
Sonke siyahluleka futhi sizizwe sidangele futhi singabaza amakhono ethu nokubaluleka kwethu, ikakhulukazi lapho impilo isiphonsa ebholeni.
Manje usunethuluzi lamathuluzi nencwadi yezinsizakalo, uzobe usudubula kuwo wonke amasilinda futhi kungekudala.
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